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Janice & Frank

Words Could Never Describe the Joy and Gratitude We Feel Today. We finally know that our 11-month wait for the arrival of our son is over. HE IS HERE!!! We can hardly believe it is true, at least until we hold him in our arms. Then we know for sure that it is true, every soft, sweet and wonderful part of him!

As we look back over the experiences we have had over the past 11 months, only the good seems to rise to the top. Yes, there were some tough times, but with the help of God, we got through them. Although this may sound strange, we actually think the rough times were an important part of our journey, and helped prepare us for the tremendous joy we are feeling now. Every parent that has a child by natural means has a period of waiting and anticipation of AT LEAST nine months. This is an important part of the process, no matter how the child comes to you. Why should we expect, or even want, that experience to be different in an adoption?

Somehow the joy that has come to us through this experience is sweeter because we have been blessed to go through the challenges of this wait together, just as natural parents would do. This has brought us much closer together as a couple, and has certainly helped us develop a deeper spiritual dimension in our lives, which has helped us realize just how much a part of this process God has been, and that we really do have the "RIGHT" child for us. We are very grateful for both of these great gifts. Having our son with us now is the ultimate icing on the cake.

Thanks to ParentProfiles.com, we received contacts from about 20 birthmothers during our almost 10 months on the site. That was an average of about 2 per month. Some of them didn’t work out because we felt that they were not the "right" circumstances for us, and some didn’t work out because ultimately the birthmothers did not choose us to adopt their children. I would guess that the mix between which side decided not to move forward was overall about 50/50.

At first, not getting chosen by a birthmother hurt our feelings and our delicate egos, I guess sort of how it might feel to not have a date for the Senior Prom, but soon we realized that if it wasn’t the "right" child or the "right" circumstances for us, then we surely did not want to force our way into parenting the "wrong" child, just because we were tired of waiting. It was a relief for us to realize that sometimes we were the ones that first detected that a particular adoption would not be "right" for us, and sometimes it was the birthmother who detected this first. Either way, knowing as soon as possible that this was not an adoption on which we should invest our emotional and financial resources was a good thing for us. This realization gave us a lot of emotional strength to carry us through the difficult times. It seemed like each experience we went through made us stronger, more certain of ourselves, and more convinced as a couple that we were doing the right thing.

Ultimately the mother of a 22 year old birthmother in a neighboring state contacted us through the ParentProfiles.com website. We flew over the next day and were there when the baby was born. We actually got to be in the delivery room and even got to cut the umbilical cord. We didn’t have much time to even get excited before it was all over. Seven days later, we were back home with our new son (9 lbs. 2 oz.) with ICPC approval and written consents from two birthparents in hand.

We absolutely know that this adoption never would have happened if it were not for the ParentProfiles.com website!!! Thank you so much for your good work and the support you have been for us during this process. You have all been super! Without reservation, we recommend ParentProfiles.com to every adoptive couple we meet. We are so grateful for this miracle in our lives!