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Unplanned Pregnancy, Pregnancy Options, Adoption Options, Pregnant and Placing
Creating an adoption birth plan is a great way to stay organized, motivated, and sane during the next few weeks and months. Choosing to place your child with an adoptive family was a difficult and painful decision to make, even after weeks of research and the consideration of all your options. Even if you feel lost or alone, you're not. And one great way to remember that is to create an adoption birth plan.
An adoption birth plan is your individualized plan or a listing of your needs for the upcoming months of pregnancy and placement. One of the many great things about creating an adoption birth plan is that it's unique to you. You can add whatever you want on the list. You don't have to worry about pleasing someone else with your list; it is solely for you. When creating your list, there are many different topics that you can cover. Here are just a few questions to ask yourself:
- Who do you want in the delivery room? Family? Friends? Adoptive family? Just Hospital staff?
- Do you want an epidural or a natural birth?
- Do you want a quiet birth where no loud sounds are made?
- What is your limit on vaginal exams? Only when necessary or whenever the hospital staff wants to check your progress?
- Will you use a doula or a midwife?
- Do you prefer to deliver in a birthing center, at home, or in the hospital?
- Should your baby be monitored only if there is a problem or do you want your baby to be monitored consistently and regularly?
- Are you willing to agree to a cesarean if you or the baby is in danger or do you prefer a vaginal birth?
- Will the child be placed with the adoptive parents immediately following labor and delivery?
- Do you want private time with your child before s/he is placed?
- Will you breastfeed your child before placement?
- Who would you like to cut the umbilical cord? Your partner? The adoptive family?
- Are you willing to donate the umbilical cord blood?
- How much contact do you want with your child and with the adoptive family, if they're invited to attend the labor and delivery?
No matter which items you choose to add to your adoption birth plan, it should be respected by your family and friends, the adoptive family, and by birthing or hospital professionals. This is your birthing experience. You have the right to determine the specifics of the birth and the experience in general. However, keep in mind that if the doctor determines that your life or your child's life is at risk, you may need to consider altering your plan. Throughout this process, don't let anyone coerce or pressure you into making a decision you're not ready to make. This needs to be about your needs and your desires. And creating an adoption plan can lead you down your chosen path with confidence.
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