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Geoff & Liz
My husband, my son, and I want to thank you from the bottom of our hearts for providing such a wonderful and affordable opportunity to make adoption connections. After several contacts and a complete turn-around in our attitude toward open adoption, we were able to match with a loving family who have made our dreams of having a little girl come to life. Our family is now complete! Who could more ...
Unplanned Pregnancy, Adoption Process, Labor and Delivery, Birth Mother
Being at the hospital to deliver a baby can be a time of joy, happiness and new adventures. But for many mothers it is a time of pain, confusion, and uncertainty. Those pregnant and placing have a different experience at the hospital than other mothers. There's sadness and longing that lingers long after the adoption is finalized. However, there are moments that can be just for the mother that she will remember and cherish for the rest of her life.
We are a biracial couple residing in Washington, DC. We love to share in new experiences that reflect our multicultural values. We have a very loving marriage, and wish to create a vibrant, nurturing home for our new family. We are excited to be parents.
One of the most exciting experiences for mothers is to name the baby. However, it becomes a little complicated when you're placing the child with an adoptive family. Some mothers find it confusing because they're not sure if they should name their child or if they should leave that up to the adoptive parents. Remember that every parent views the right and privilege to name a child differently. The general idea is that before your parental rights are severed, you have the right to name your child if you want to. If it's important to you, name your child as you wish. However, it's important to remember that after the adoption is finalized, the adoptive parents have the right to change the name. So, when you choose a name for your baby, know that it may not stay, but it will be the name that you'll remember and a name that has significance to you.
Before you're admitted into the hospital for your labor, it might be helpful to discuss adoption with the staff. While it may be hard to discuss with strangers, it can help them be more sensitive to your feelings and the situation in general. If you haven't created an adoption birth plan, it might be a good time to do so. If you have an adoption birth plan already, pass them out to those that will be working in your delivery room. Your adoption birth plan should specify how you want the birth handled--whether you'd like alone time with your child, the adoptive parents are visiting, or if you'd like the nurses to take the child away immediately. When talking with the hospital staff before you're admitted, make sure to stress how important it is to respect your needs during this difficult time.
Remember that your hospital visit is your time. It can be a time to bond with your child, name your baby, and say your goodbyes. Memorize your baby's face and take pictures, so you can remember that special day. Even though there's sadness, there's also happiness. If you feel up to it, invite your close friends and family members to participate in that special time. If you feel it is appropriate, you also have the right to invite the adoptive parents to visit you and the baby before you sever your parental rights and the adoption is finalized.
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