Matthew & Debbi
We have been on parentprofiles.com for about 2 months. We were contacted by an agengy 2 weeks ago and they were collecting profiles for a birthmom in our area. We sent ours in and she chose us. We met and she is wonderful, the baby is due Nov. 1 and we cant wait!! more ...
Life involves progression and sacrifice. In order to gain something, you sometimes have to give up something else. The same goes for parenting. One of the many sacrifices you'll have to make as a parent is your pre-children lifestyle. Your lifestyle alters dramatically once you have children. Before your children, you most likely had more free time, money, and more sleep at night. You may begin to feel that your free time no longer belongs to you, that it belongs to the betterment and rearing of your children.
It's important to find the right balance in life. Granted, that's easier said than done. For some, finding the right balance will be overwhelming and seemingly impossible. But it isn't impossible. Here are some great and simple methods to regaining control in your life and finding the right balance for all your responsibilities and goals:
Scheduling: Make and keep a schedule. Write down all your meetings, deadlines, casual or business get-togethers, and all your appointments. And if you're in charge of your family's schedule, make sure to keep track of those appointments also. You'll find that your mind will be more at ease because you have everything written down in your planner; you won't have to worry about if you're missing an appointment or what the next week entails. You'll already know and have something to reference easily.
Organization: Now that you've organized your time and your schedule, organize your surroundings. This can also seem overwhelming. Start small. Start by organizing your closet or your desk drawers. Organize the laundry room or one kitchen cupboard. When you feel up to it, tackle something larger like the entire office or kid's room. With each additional thing you organize, you'll find more confidence and eagerness to continue organizing your entire house. And once you've done that, you can relax and enjoy life more because it won't seem as hectic.
Relaxation: It's necessary for your sanity. Excess and constant stress not only plays havoc on your mind but also your body. Without proper rest and relaxation, we can feel broken--lacking energy or confidence. Take the time to relax and rest. Enjoy the calmer parts of life. If your relaxation is to be away from the ever-bustling household, plan a weekend getaway. If you just need a few hours to read or watch a movie in your pajamas, do it. You can refuel and enjoy yourself. Then you'll be ready to meet the rest of the day with confidence and a positive attitude.
Re-Evaluation: Continually re-evaluate your schedule, your priorities, and your responsibilities. This ensures that you are using your time and energy to your best capacity--getting the most out of your day and your busy schedule. It can simply take fifteen minutes to go through your responsibilities and priority list and re-rank things and update your calendar.
While your lifestyle won't be the same after you become a parent, your new lifestyle can be just as good of a lifestyle--and even better--than your previous one. You have the beautiful opportunity to rear, raise, and teach your children, and you get to watch them learn, grow, and progress through life.