Lloyd & Sarah
We made our contact from having our profile listed on Parent Profiles.com. Without it this is a connection we never could have made. IT wasn;t the miracle few weeks some speak of. It took a 1-1/2 years to make this connection, but it was definately meant to be. We made several connections over that time and have met some very wonderful people. We very much love the birth mom of more ...
Working with medical professionals during your pregnancy and labor and delivery can be confusing, complicated, and stressful when you're placing a child for adoption. Finding and working with the right medical professionals generally follows the same steps as finding and working with adoption professionals. It requires hard work, a clear and comprehensive understanding, and confidence in your needs, options, and opinions.
We will provide a safe, nurturing home full of love where your child will be given every chance to grow into a confident, loving adult. We have been married for 12 years, and we canít wait to share our love and life with a child that we will love forever.
Throughout your journey, you'll work and speak with many types of medical professionals. They may range from nurses to doctors--to name a few. Each medical professional will have his/her own opinions and methods, some of which may not fit with your needs. But in order to know that, you need to first have a clear understanding of yourself, your situation, your needs, and your expectations.
Once you understand what you want out of this experience--your end goals--you can move forward with finding the right medical professionals. The right medical professional for someone else won't be the right one for you. So, while it can be beneficial to ask others--friends, community organizations, and hospitals or other medical professionals--for referrals, it's more important that you see each professional objectively. The only way to know if a certain doctor or midwife is the right one for you is to talk to him/her. Ask about credentials and experience, expertise and medical beliefs. If these match up with your own beliefs and needs, ask for referrals. However, this might not always be possible because of confidentiality agreements.
Because you're pregnant and placing, it may be a good idea to know each medical professional's understanding and stance on adoption. You'll want one that is empathetic and knows how to respect your needs--whether that is allowing the adoptive family in the delivery room with you, needing your own private time with your baby after delivery, or if you want the child placed with the adoptive parents right away. However, keep in mind that some compromise is usually necessary in any healthy, mutually beneficial relationship.
If at any time you feel uncomfortable with a medical professional with whom you're working, remember that you have the right to change your mind and find someone else. The doctor, nurse, or doula may be offended, but this is your journey. It's important that you can trust everyone involved--and that includes all professionals. Allow yourself the power and control you should have throughout this experience.
While working with medical professionals can be daunting and intimidating, it's a part of the pregnant and placing process. Taking the time to find the right professionals for your needs and your situation can give you the confidence to move forward and reach your end goals. You deserve to work with those who show love, care, concern, and support--those who understand how hard this process can be. You deserve happiness and hope for your future and the future of your child.