Dean & Sheryl
Our Birthmother Contacted Us Three Months After First Seeing Our Profile. We want to say thank you for all you have done for us!† We now have a new baby girl in our family thanks to having our Parent Profile listed on the ParentProfiles.com website.† Strange as it may seem, our birthmother saw our Profile on the ParentProfiles.com website six months ago and didnít contact us until almost three months later when she finally decided that she would not be more ...
When a miscarriage occurs, even in the first few weeks of pregnancy, it's easy to wonder about what you could have done, or should have done, that would have prevented the loss of the baby. You blame yourself. You feel that you have been judged in some way and found to be so lacking that your baby was taken away. You may feel numb, or overly sensitive. One of the biggest things you will feel however is fear of another pregnancy after miscarriage.
Although most women who experience miscarriage do start trying to conceive again as soon as they are able, there is a deep set fear within them that they will experience a similar situation with the next baby. Pregnancy after miscarriage is a mixed emotions experience. First is the elation that you will have another chance to have a baby, then there is the fear that this pregnancy will also end in miscarriage, and then there is the guilt that you feel that by feeling happiness for the new pregnancy, you are betraying the baby you lost to the miscarriage.
Pregnancy after miscarriage is common and usually will not require any additional medical check-ups. However, if multiple miscarriages have occurred prior to this pregnancy, it's possible that an early appointment with an ob/gyn will be advised to monitor the pregnancy and ensure that all precautions to keep the baby safe, especially during the period where the miscarriages have occurred in the past, are taken.
One of the things that you must do is to accept that miscarriage happens and that it isn't a judgment on you or your ability to be a mother. It will be impossible for any woman experiencing pregnancy after miscarriage not to feel fear of losing another baby, but instead of concentrating on that, try to concentrate on the number of babies which are born healthy to women who have had miscarriages in the past. Just because you have lost one baby, doesn't mean you will lose another. Be careful and listen to your body, but don't allow the miscarriage to cheat you out of the joy you are entitled to feel at this new pregnancy. Once the baby is born, you will regret the months you spent worrying instead of enjoying the experience - so accept that the miscarriage happened, know that the baby you lost knows how much you loved it, take any extra precautions you think will help put your mind at ease that you are doing all you can to keep this baby safe until it's born, and then concentrate on this baby and the wonder of being pregnant.