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Deciding to place while you're pregnant can be a difficult and emotional decision to make. You've explored your options and decided that adoption is the best route for both you and your child. While the big decision has been made, you're not done yet. There are some many, smaller decisions to make before you can effectively progress through the adoption process, to the end goal of finalization.
The first thing you need to do is create an adoption birth plan, just as you might do if you planned to parent after delivery. An adoption birth plan is an outline customized to your needs and wants during the placement process. It can include things like the type of adoption you'd like, post-adoption relationship specifications, who you'd like in the delivery room with you, important medical decisions, like circumcision and vaccinations, and who can keep hospital memorabilia. After you've completed your adoption birth plan, give it to your doctor and all nurses in the delivery room, your adoption lawyer, the potential adoptive parents, and all adoption agencies and professionals with whom you're working. This is to ensure that everyone is on the same page.
Something else to consider while making your adoption birth plan is breastfeeding. Knowing that you're placing your child with an adoptive family, you may want to speak with the adoptive family and see how they feel about you breastfeeding before your child is placed with them. The other side of this issue is whether or not the adoptive mother wants to breastfeed after adoption finalization. Sometimes when this is the case, the adoptive mother may ask you if she can begin breastfeeding after labor and delivery. This decision is up to you, of course. If you feel uncomfortable with it, tell her so. The truth is that your parental rights are still intact until you decide otherwise. However, it may be an option to work together with the adoptive mother in order to make breastfeeding a common goal.
Another part of the decision to place is after you've already parented your child for a while. You may discover that you're unable to financially, physically, or emotionally support or care for your child. When this happens, it's time to reevaluate yourself and your abilities. It's also time to explore your options. While you may feel embarrassed or ashamed, placing after parenting is a reality for many, and it takes a lot of courage and self-understanding. Before you begin this journey, it's important that you find an adoption lawyer and other professionals that can help and defend you and make sure your needs are met.
No matter if you're pregnant and placing or parenting and considering placing, you have many options to explore and many decisions to make. Trust yourself throughout this process and get help and support when you need it. Even though you may feel alone, you're not. People have gone before you with the same issues and concerns, and there will be those with the same worries coming behind you. After you've finished your personal journey, consider helping others through the process.
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