Josh & Ann
We hadn't really considered adopting a non-infant, but when Gwynn contacted us about her 25 month old girl, we decided to go for it! After a LONG 10 days in Arkansas, we finalized on Dec. 23 and made it home for the holidays! Both our birthmoms have found us through Parent Profiles - thanks! more ...
When you experience an unplanned pregnancy, it is important to make an informed decision. It will take time and effort to study all your options, then deciding on one option, and moving forward. If you've chosen adoption, you'll have ample opportunity to speak with others about your decision and the adoption process in general. For some, the adoption process can be a traumatic experience. If this is true for you, consider support after the placement of your child. Talking to others can be a great therapeutic tool that encourages healing, growth, and progress. Emotional healing can begin with speaking about your feelings, your experiences, you fears, and your needs. Start there.
Speaking with a professional counselor is one of your many options. Even though some people hesitate to speak with a professional counselor because they find it embarrassing or intrusive, there is no need for these feelings. Professional counselors are there to help you, to guide you, and to help you heal. It starts with trust, from both you and the counselor. Talking with a counselor doesn't mean you're broken. It just means that you're taking the initiative to start your healing process. Accepting that you need help is a strength. Embrace that strength, and do what you need to do to move forward with your life. A professional counselor will also help you come to a better understanding of yourself, your situation, and exactly what you're feeling.
Other than talking with a professional counselor, you'll be able to talk to others and share your journey. This can help others that are in a situation in which you were once. One of the great things about sharing your own journey in order to help someone else is it actually helps you continue to heal and progress. Sharing one's experiences can be incredibly powerful for each person involved, whether that is through a support group, speaking arrangements, one-on-one talks, or on the internet. This is a great way for you to find additional support and help from people in similar situations.
While you may not be ready to talk about your experiences just yet, remember that it is a valuable option--one that is never too late to explore. Remember that it is normal to need some time before you're ready to talk. Don't let anyone push you into it if you're not yet ready. And remember that you don't have to go through this alone. You have people around you who would like to help you begin and progress through the healing process. You're not alone.