Sean & Danielle
After a great deal of research, we decided to try to match independent of an agency with this adoption. We posted our profile in mid-September, and received several contacts from expectant mothers over the next few months. Two of those contacts wound up being scams, and while it was disappointing each time, we knew to expect that to happen at some point. In mid November, we received an e-mail from a young more ...
A smooth adoption process requires dedication and honesty from all members of the adoption triad. For anyone within the adoption triad, the adoption process will be time-consuming and sometimes painful and heart-wrenching. Whether or not you're experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, remember that you do have options. First and foremost, you shouldn't feel pressured to make a decision before you're ready. It needs to be your and your partner's decision. Take the time you need to research, make an informed decision, and be comfortable and accept your decision.
If you've decided that adoption is the right option for you, consider all the different types of adoption (open, closed, semi-open/semi-closed). Each type of adoption is different, so consider all types separately and completely. There isn't one choice that is right for everyone. It is completely dependent on with what you're comfortable, your specific situation, and how much contact you want to have after placement.
Working with the right adoption professionals is also important. Just like you will be researching and learning about the different types of adoption, you should be researching different adoption agencies and other adoption and legal professionals. It is imperative to put as much time and energy into researching these professionals as you put into deciding upon adoption and which type of adoption is best for you. Throughout this journey of discovery and decision, ask any questions that you may have. Never be embarrassed that you need additional clarification. It is the only way to be wholly informed.
The adoption process can be long and arduous. It can be a journey of self-discovery and self-understanding. It is a journey of self-acceptance and moving forward through your life. These are all reasons that you should do everything you can to understand the adoption process, if you have chosen that as your pathway. You not only need to be honest with yourself--your needs and wants--but be honest with anyone you work with. And vice versa. Your interaction with professionals and potential adoptive parents should be based in honesty and integrity.