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An unplanned pregnancy can come as a huge shock to both you and your partner, but there are ways to handle the situation. There is no better time to start planning for the months to come during pregnancy than right now. You will have many options to sort through. Two main options you may need to consider are parenting your child and setting up the proper adoption arrangements. However, keep in mind that these are only two of many options to consider.
Depending on the exact situation, speak with the father of the child and invite him to be a part of the decision-making process. Do what you can to work together, respect the opinions and needs of one another, and to move forward with confidence. However, the father may not want to be involved or it may not be a good idea to include him if you're in danger by doing so. Even when that is the case, it's important to remember that even though you feel alone, you're not alone. You can reach out to others for help during your times of need. Firstly, consider gathering your trusted friends and family members as your support system. You may discover that some family members and friends don't agree with the choices you've made or the situation in which you find yourself. If this is the case, sit them down and have a frank discussion about your unplanned pregnancy. Let them ask questions and voice their concerns. This can help them more fully understand what you're going through and that you need stable and reliable support from loved ones.
Another thing you may deal with because of your unplanned pregnancy is the knowledge that your birth control failed. This can be hard to accept, especially if you feel you've been stalwart with your birth control methods. The best things you can do are move forward and try a new method in the future. If you have setbacks in accepting your situation, consider visiting with a professional counselor or therapist. Your counselor can help you understand your situation, your feelings, and your fears and concerns. And s/he can help you find ways to move forward, emotionally grow from your situation, and find self-acceptance.
As you continue your journey, try to keep as much stress out of your life as possible. It may seem impossible because the very nature of your situation is stressful, but limiting unnecessary stress is better for both you and your growing child. If the father of your child is involved in your journey, remember that blaming each other for your situation will only create a strained relationship and resentment. That's one reason that accepting your situation and moving forward is imperative to your current and future happiness and progression. You may need to find new ways to deal with stress. Consider taking some time for yourself to do something enjoyable: reading a book, watching a movie, taking a nap, or going for a walk.
Experiencing an unplanned pregnancy doesn't have to halt your progression. Consider it part of your journey, or even the beginning of your journey. Learn what you can from it, make an informed decision from your available options, and become a stonger person because of your experiences.