Mark & Peggy
We've met the most wonderful birthmother through our parent profile! And she is due in March 2004. Not only do we get to experience the birth of our child (we'll be the coaches), but we also get to participate in the prenatal visits and birthing classes. Thanks for giving us the outlet to connect with her! more ...
Placing a child requires teamwork. It isn't a one-person experience. The adoption process requires near-constant interaction with adoption professionals, legal representatives, and potential adoptive parents. You will have to bring people into your situation so that they can better assist you in working through the adoption process, finding the right family for your child, and helping you fully understand the placement process.
Because the adoption process can be so long and tedious, it is important to do everything you can to help the process run smoothly. One simple thing that you can do to make sure you're doing your part is to stay honest. But honesty while progressing through the adoption process is more than just telling the truth. It is about being upfront with those with whom you're working. Share your emotions, your feelings, your fears, and your needs. They will never know what you're feeling and what you need if you never divulge that information.
The second part of honesty is to make sure the adoption professionals, legal representatives, and the potential adoptive parents are being honest with you. This is obviously more difficult to pinpoint than knowing if you're being completely honest with them. That's one reason it is important to do some research before you begin working with an agency or any other adoption professional. Do some online research, call and ask your local government for recommendations, and ask trusted family members and friends for referrals. Don't be afraid to ask for references from these professionals. They should be able to provide you with several reliable references and testimonials. If they can't, steer clear of them.
Don't be afraid to ask questions. These adoption and legal professionals are there to help you through the adoption process. They are there to field your concerns, answer your questions, and help you understand the experience. If they aren't cutting it, set them loose. You should be able to find professionals that are more than willing to answer your questions and provide you with honest and dependable service. If you aren't happy with them, find someone new. It can be that simple.
If you're unsure of where you stand with the type of adoption in which you are interested, take some time to figure that out. Before you can move forward, you'll need to know your expectations. If not, you may not end up with what you want, and what you know is best for both you and your child.