Nancy & Gabe
Urban Legend? That's what we thought when we read peoples' success stories about meeting a birthfamily within weeks of joining parent profiles. And yet, that's exactly what happened for us. We signed up in January and within a week we'd made a match to a great couple in a neighboring state. We traveled to visit them in mid February and were still sort of "feeling one another out" when we were contacted by the woman more ...
Life is full of daily stresses. Because of this, the last thing that you want to worry about is an unplanned pregnancy. Finding out that you're pregnant can either be a joyous moment or it can feel like your entire world is crashing down around you. However, it's important to remember that you have options and available resources to consider.
Facing an unplanned pregnancy alone can be terrifying. But remember that you have loving family members and friends that can be your support system. If there are rifts in your relationships, consider actively participating in a local support group. Here you'll find others who have gone through pregnancy alone, have had unplanned pregnancies, and those who have chosen to place and to parent. You can create relationships that will help you through the next few months and even for many years to come. You can also find support through pregnancy counseling and crisis pregnancy centers. Where you turn for support depends on your needs, goals, and expectations.
An unplanned pregnancy can be even scarier when you're a teenager. You will find that you've been placed in an adult situation and you have many adult decisions to make. Remember that the best decision you can make is an informed one. Take the time you need to study your options thoroughly and carefully. This needs to be your decision, because you'll have to live it for the rest of your life.
As a pregnant teen, you'll face social stigmas that accompany your situation. You'll have to face negative, judgmental people at school and anywhere else you go. You may even get it from your parents, teachers, school administrators, church members, and your friends. Knowing this before you encounter it can help you prepare yourself emotionally for inappropriate comments and rude looks.
Throughout this journey, remember that the most important thing for you to do is make the decision you feel is right, after you've studied and understand your options. Also, do what you can to involve the father of your child, unless circumstances make that imprudent. Whether or not you're still a couple, discuss your options together and support each other through this difficult decision-making process.
Experiencing an unplanned pregnancy doesn't mean your life stops. Think of it as the beginning of your adult life. You have the opportunity to take steps to help you mature and understand yourself and the world around you better. Whether you decide to parent or place, make the next few weeks, months, and years a journey that will bring you close to who you want to become.