TROY & BAMBIprofile id #15990
TROY & BAMBI
are hopeful adoptive parents from Oregon waiting to adopt a baby.
If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.
It is with joy and love that we write this letter to you. We welcome you and invite you to learn more about our family. We have been blessed to adopt three beautiful children and our lives have been enriched to have three amazing birthmothers and a few birthfathers who we feel are an extension of our family. We are forever grateful and we know the incredible thought and heartache that went into their decisions. They gave the ultimate sacrifice, the Breath of life to us and we will ever be connected by these precious gifts. We hope to find one last connection with an amazing birthmother or couple that knows in their heart that we are the right family for their precious little daughter or son. We love adoption and are grateful for not only how is has filled our hearts with love and joy, but how our birthmothers have enriched our lives. We love them dearly and they have become part of us and an important part of our children’s lives. We invite you to read on and get to know our family better.
OUR MO’OLELO (story)
Although we are not Hawaiian, we are at heart and would love to take a ride back to the beginning when we both met. We had both been searching for the perfect fit for us. Bambi’s Aunt worked with Troy and suggested setting the two of us up on a date. Bambi waited patiently for the call but none came. After several months she decided that she should take matters into her own hands and planned to go meet Troy that day. She went to the store where he worked, introduced herself, we talked for a few moments and then she left. After that meeting, he quickly called and set up their first date (he felt bad he didn’t call earlier because she was so cute)! There was something special and an immediate spark was lit. It was only a month later when we got engaged and a couple months after that we got married. When things are right you know it. We definitely had that confirmation and have never looked back.
It was the beginning of our marriage that we learned that we both had some problems that would make it difficult to have children, but we felt that we needed to learn all we could and try and do all that could be done to start our family. After four years of trying all kinds of infertility procedures we decided that adoption was the right choice for us. It definitely was, but it was also a long journey. We experienced many losses along the way, but they taught us and helped us grow. At the perfect time we were blessed when our son Kimball’s birthmother contacted us. What a strong and amazing woman she is. We talked and got to know each other easily and there was a definite connection between us. We were lucky to have time to get to know her and grew close very quickly. We were also lucky to be able to spend some time before and after his birth with her and her family. That time is very cherished by both of us. The same day that Kimball’s birthmother contacted us we were also contacted by Harmony’s birthmother, although we didn’t know at the time we would also be adopting her a couple months after Kimball. We think back on her letter and there was always something special about it that we couldn’t get out of our minds. It was the only letter we received from her until a week before Harmony’s birth. What a wonderful surprise it was to get her second letter. We weren’t sure if we could adopt another baby, because we had already adopted Kimball, but we asked her if she knew that we were the right family for her daughter and if she was ok that we had adopted another baby. We also felt it important to talk with Kimball’s birthmother, because how she felt was important to us also. After receiving her blessing and then learning that Harmony’s birthmother knew we were the right family, we were filled with joy knowing that we would be parents again. I remember Harmony’s birthmother saying to us that she hoped to make this Christmas a Very Merry Christmas! She definitely did that! We had the best Christmas of our lives!
We enjoyed our life and felt so blessed to be able to have two children and one of each which was really fun. We hoped to have more children in our home but for a few years felt we needed to focus on Kimball and Harmony and enjoy these precious gifts. When Harmony was two she started asking for a sister, one that was just like her to share her room so she wouldn’t be afraid of the dark. We thought it was so sweet but knew that we would have to wait a little bit. Finally the kids were a little older and we knew it was time to adopt. Once again we were blessed by an amazing birth couple. We wrote emails and talked on the phone and because they lived close we were able to plan some trips and visit them and spend some time with them before Treygan was born.
Each of our birthparents are very different from one another and each relationship we have with them is individual and unique to just them. Our relationships are built on trust and friendship and we have a great love towards one another. We have both experienced loss. For us the loss has been from years of treatments, monthly and yearly disappointments only to realize that we will not be able to bring life to this world. Our birthmothers have struggled with the heart wrenching decision and grief of whether to parent or give their child what they cannot give at that time, knowing it will be the most difficult thing they will ever do to place their child in someone else’s arms because of the love they have for them. The pain felt and experience is different but we both understand loss. On the other hand, we also both have a tremendous capacity to love! The incredible love our birthmothers have for their children is evident in everything that surrounds this heartfelt exchange. Three times we have been given a gift knowing that there is a tremendous amount of trust placed on us not only to love and care for these children, but to teach and help them know the eternal love that their birthmothers have for them and always will. We have been in a partnership of love with our birthparents. We together have embraced one of the most important exchanges of love that we personally have ever experienced on this earth. We felt it was important to share some of our personal feelings and experiences with our birthparents and about adoption so you will know better who we are and our feeling and commitment to both our children and our birthparents.
We love our family! They are so wonderful and we have so much fun with them. We have named our home Tiki Beach. We don’t live at the ocean but we have done our best to create a tropical retreat for our family. We always want our family to feel like they are in the most special place when they are home. We love to be together and we like to go on adventures as a family. Some of our favorite places are the beaches -- we love building sandcastles and have even entered competitions and have won some awards. We go berry picking, kite flying and in one adventure we even got to ride a hot air balloon. We weren’t expecting to do that when we woke up that morning. Sometimes our adventures are just at home building blanket forts in the living room, creating an animal hospital with all our stuffed animals including our family pets. We love dressing up in costumes, and having tea parties or playing light sabers in the dark. We love picnics, bike riding, roller-skating and swimming. We work together as a family cleaning, planting our garden, and we try to include service in our lives by doing good deeds and helping others. Our kids love to make cookies and take them to people and surprise them. Our relatives live away from us but we spend as much time with them as we can and plan special trips to celebrate with them.
Troy is such an amazing father and husband. He is dedicated to his family and provides well for us but more importantly he spends all his free time with us. He is a very kind and gentle man and he would much rather invest his time with us than hang out with the guys. Troy is awesome at math and is wonderful at creating and building things. You should see the tiki huts, play structure for the kids, and the amazing crab clock he made me. Troy is our personal pizza man and BBQ griller. He was the best catch Bambi ever found.
Bambi is so happy to be a mother and wife and is so grateful that she can stay home and care for her family. She is the idea person and she figures out how to make our dreams and wishes come true. There is nothing more comforting to her then to hear the sounds of our family and to have them snuggle in her arms. Bambi plays the piano, banjo, violin and guitar and loves art. She loves animals and nature and is great at finding and appreciating the small and simple things in life.
As partners, there is no one else we would rather be with. We love each other and find joy in spending time together, and we are both on the same team as we work together. We care about teaching our children to do and become their best and finding there individual strengths and talents. Our life would not be complete without every member of our family.
Kimball is such a sweet and loving boy. He loves to snuggle and rock, and even though he is quickly growing out of our laps, we will enjoy this as long as we can. He has always been careful. When he was little and learning to stand and sit he would practice over and over until he got it right. He loves Lightning Mcqueen, trains and anything new he can discover. He is very inventive. He loves playing with his brother and sister and especially loves to play Star Wars. He is artistic and kind and often gives us the sweetest little notes.
Harmony is full of energy and excitement for life. She is going all the time. She loves dancing, doing flips and singing and as an infant she would sing in her sleep. She fills our home with music and love. She loves dressing up like princesses and probably changes her clothes at least 10 times a day. Mermaids have been one of her favorite things since she was two. She is quite the little mother and has been a wonderful helper with her little brother. She is excited for a new sister to share a room with her. It would be her “dream come true.”
Treygan is full of sunshine and laughter. He has grown so quickly and seems so much older then he is. He watches us carefully and learns quickly. He has lots of teachers to teach him. He is a happy boy and loves to be tickled and loves to laugh. He fills our hearts with joy and gives the sweetest hugs.
ALL OUR LOVE - MAHALO
We know there is so much more to share and hope you would like to get to know us better. If you feel a connection with us we would love to visit with you. We know that the journey of adoption is never an easy one and there are many unknowns. Our hope is to have a good relationship where we can talk about things and be open about our feeling and provide help to one another. Please feel free to ask us anything. We want to be open and have a healthy relationship. We have a very strong belief that the right people are brought together at the right time. We know it will be difficult and there will be sadness but we also hope that we can bring you joy. We are thinking about you and hope to hear from you soon! Thank you for talking the time to get to know us better!