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Rex & Jennifer are hopeful adoptive parents from Nevada waiting to adopt a baby.

If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.

Hi! Dear Friend ,
We thank you for considering adoption. We applaud you in wanting to do what is best for your child. The great love you must feel for your child is so important. You understand what you want for your child to make this selfless sacrifice. While you may have never thought you would be reading a letter like this, a letter to a prospective birth parent, we are glad you are reading this one. We pray for you to receive the guidance to make your decisions in life.

Getting to Know Us Independent, responsible, and kind are attributes that describe all the members in our family. Rex has a quiet sense of humor, is a hard worker, and gets along with most everyone. His friends and coworkers know they can count on Rex, and he is often helping someone paint their house, fix their sprinkler pipes, or move to a new house. Jeni is a compassionate, patient person, and likes to have fun. Her friends rely on her as well for help, good advice, and an enjoyable girls night out. Lucy, at 8 years old, is the older daughter and takes caring for others seriously. If anyone in our family is sick , she is the first one to bring an ice pack or make a get well card. She is reserved, but has a couple of close friends she likes to giggle and be silly with. Cole is outgoing and friendly. At six years old, and the younger brother, he likes to play with everyone and is constantly on the look out for a fun time.
We met in college and got married in 1998. We've always known that we wanted to have a strong marriage, and have constantly worked to improve our relationship. While we may not always get out of the house for our weekly date (sometimes it just a movie after the kids go to bed), we value our couple time, and know that one of the best things for our kids is to have a secure foundation in our marriage. Like all marriages, we've had a few unexpected challenges, such as having close family members pass away, and Jeni going through treatments for cancer. Our marriage though, has helped us weather those rocky times well.
Education is very important to us. We value greatly the educational experiences that we have had and we want our kids to have the same or better opportunities. We both have bachelor's degrees and feel that both of our kids are advanced in their education as well. Jeni has worked various jobs, most recently she was self-employed part-time as an auto title specialist. Right now she stays home with the kids. Rex works for the government in a financial position.

Fun and Values There are many different things we do for fun and at any given moment we are trying something new. As a family, we like to hike, camp, play board and card games, read, cook, watch movies, play sports (soccer, baseball, basketball), go to museums, theater performances, and garden. Rex likes to also mountain bike, star gaze with his telescope, practice the guitar, and play on the computer. Jeni likes to sew, make cards, dance, and sing in the choir. Lucy is taking piano lessons and ballet. She enjoys both, as well as making crafts with her friends. Cole loves sports, Star Wars, and trains. To learn additional things we like to do Send us a message
As we mentioned above, education is something we value. We believe that learning does not begin or end at school. As a family we live this value by taking trips to museums, theater performances and learning new things together. Religion is another thing we value. We show our commitment by involving our kids in in our religion and having spiritual experiences as a family. Independence is another value of ours. We take the time to teach our kids to do things for themselves and encourage them to share their voices in what goes on in our family and around them. Service and kindness are another value we stress. These values we reinforce by involving our kids in the service we do and by making sure that they know that we believe everyone is a child of God and should be treated accordingly.
There are several community service organizations to whom we donate items, money, or time. This past year we gave our kids the opportunity to earn money by doing extra chores. At the end of the year they were able to buy Toys for Tots. We matched what they had earned and let them pick out toys they would like to donate. At the same time, we do service on a personal level, like dropping off cookies for friends and sharing our water with our neighbors when their pipes freeze.

Parenting and Relatives Our main philosophy of parenting is to consistently try to work things out before a situation arises. Talking about our expectations ahead of time seems to really help. We like to give options and we are willing to listen if our kids present an option that we hadn't thought of. We do have appropriate consequences if our kids decide to make a bad choice and need to have more than the natural consequences. Often it is just a time-out until their feelings are under control and until they are ready to talk about it. Sometimes we take away objects that are causing a problem, or we have them write down or draw their feelings.
We do not live close to either of our extended families (4 hours from one and 6 hours from the other), but we still maintain closeness in other ways. Visits from one side or the other are once a month. All our vacations involve our families, whether it is to a family get-together or to a vacation spot with a few relatives. In addition, we send and receive letters, email, and phone calls often. We also talk to our kids often about their relatives by telling stories or by telling our kids when something they do reminds us of a relative. Jeni is also still close with her cousins and they email, have reunions, and visit each other often. While we do not live close to our blood relatives, we do have many friends, “relatives that we picked ourselves”, who support us. For example, in our neighborhood we have a few retired couples who love to be grandparents to our children. They support our children by attending their sports games and school performances. They put the pictures our kids make on their refrigerators and keep toys at their houses specifically for when we visit.
Thank you again for taking the time to learn more about our family. We believe birth parents are selfless people who truly care about the well being of their children. Just as there are many reasons people adopt, we think there are many reasons people think about adoption for their child. There is love on both sides though, love for the child and all involved. If you have any other specific questions or would like to know more, please do not hesitate to drop us an e-mail Send us a message or contact us through this site. Best wishes in whatever decision you make.
Rex, Jennifer, Lucy, Cole