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Stephen & Jennifer are hopeful adoptive parents from Kansas waiting to adopt a baby.

If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.

Letter to Birth Parents Dear Birth Parents:

How do you start a letter to someone who will change your life forever? How do you decide what the most important things to tell them are? The decision to adopt consumes our minds and hearts every day and we are sure we are not alone in that feeling. We sympathize with how every fiber of you must be full of emotions and that sometimes it feels like no one else can understand. Though it might not feel like it sometimes, please know that adoption is a choice of love. You are the only person that can allow us to have a child. We hope you can understand what a huge blessing this is to us and know that we will always feel indebted to you. In our minds you are the most generous and unselfish person on the planet to be able to choose to give your baby more through adoption. Every step we take in the adoption process we prayerfully think through as with all important decisions in our lives. We both know that this is the right time and the right avenue for us to start our family and we hope that you will feel peace and comfort in your decision as well.

We both have been touched deeply by experiences with adoption. Steve has two adopted siblings and Jennifer has three adopted cousins, many friends who are adopted, a step-mother who is adopted and a close friend who is a birth mom. Jennifer’s friend has expressed some of her most tender feelings about her choice of giving her baby to another family and how important being able to have some contact with the child and adoptive parents are. We want your child to know how wonderful you are. We want them to know how much you love them, how brave you are and how strong and unselfish you are. We also want them to know what you look like and what you hope for them as they grow.

I think it is important that you know why I chose to marry Steve. Maybe that will help you decide if he is the right one to choose for your baby. Steve and I met at a BBQ during a Super Bowl party. He tells me that from the first day we met he knew I was the one. I was a little more hesitant about getting married, but from then on we spent almost every waking moment together that we didn’t have to work or go to school. His family and friends were all very welcoming and kind to me and I felt right at home with them too. I love spending time with Steve talking about our future. He is a fun person to experience new adventures with. We love to travel all over together. I love that he enjoys cooking with me. If I am having a lazy day he is always very loving and considerate and helps me around the house. He even agreed to take dance lessons with me and we had so much fun. Steve loves sports, but he never lets that get in the way of spending time with me or taking care of other important matters. I love that he is intelligent and got good grades in law school. Steve and I are very social so I love that he is always willing to host dinners and invite people over to play games or BBQ etc. My mom says the first thing that made her fall in love with Steve was that he is so easy to talk to. He has a great sense of humor and you can most often find him making someone laugh by saying something silly or doing a little jig. Another reason why I love Steve is, though he is a man large in stature, children are always quickly drawn to him. I really could go on and on about why I love him and why I know he will be a great dad. I hope this gives you a glimpse of how wonderful he is and I hope we can meet you soon so you can see for yourself.

Throughout our marriage I have had the opportunity to watch Jennifer interact with children. Whether it is my nieces, our friends’ children, or the kids at church, Jennifer has always amazed me with her natural maternal instincts. She loves children and is always the first one to get down and play with them, encourage them, and teach them no matter what the setting. She was a nanny for many years and has always done things in her life to prepare for motherhood such as volunteering at an adoption agency, taking parenting classes, and reading parenting magazines and books. She is always practicing her parenting skills with her pets and friends’ children. Jennifer feels she has a great responsibility for teaching and loving other peoples’ children at church and she takes that very seriously. Jennifer loves to sing and paid her way through college with a vocal scholarship. She can't wait to sing lullabies to a little one. She enjoys the social sciences as well as legal studies much like Steve. Jennifer also enjoys doing all kinds of crafts and anything creative. She plans on being a stay at home mom once a child is placed in our home. I know she will feel most fulfilled in her role as a mother because she is more passionate about teaching, loving and being around children than anything else.

While there is no way we can promise you that we will be perfect parents, we have learned a lot from our parents, the church and other outside resources about what is important in parenting, and we have made plans to do our best to provide these things for a child. We hope we can be the perfect parents for your child. We believe in miracles and hope you do as well. We hope you will be our miracle. Of course, we CAN promise that your child will be raised with a strong spiritual background. We both have strong testimonies of our Savior, Jesus Christ and of His gospel. We can promise you that we will do our best to be consistent in praise and discipline, be loving, fair and give any child in our home opportunities to develop their talents and explore our beautiful world outdoors. We promise to praise them and instill self-esteem in them and encourage and support them. We also plan to read to them every night possible (we’ve already started a book collection for them), pray with them, and have a good bedtime pattern and structure. However, we will be flexible when we need to be. Because we love to travel, your child will have opportunities to see and experience new places. We will teach them to cook and be responsible with some chores, yet still have a fun and memorable childhood filled with whatever sports, music, dancing, or other activities they choose. Education is important to us and we will see to it that they will have the opportunity to pursue their dreams academically. We also shouldn’t fail to mention that any child placed in our home will be subjected to grandparents, aunts and uncles and close friends who plan to smother them with love and spoil them with anything they want.

With Love,
Steve and Jennifer Allred

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Interests We have many various interests together and with our friends. We both love to cook, travel, entertain our friends with parties and BBQ's, go swimming and try new things. It is one of our goals to try a new activity at least once a year together. Last year we tried ballroom dancing together and we loved it! We have done fun things like swim with dolphins, go to huge water parks, go on roller coasters and various amusement parks, go on an alligator safari, go to art and history museums, various zoo's and wildlife parks, movies, beach trips, boating trips, camping trips and have made lots of other memories together. There is always something fun or interesting that we are planning to do.

Jennifer:

I enjoy spending time with my friends chatting and doing all kinds of scrap booking and card making. I love to sing, play the piano and flute as well. Though I enjoy occasional camping I wouldn't consider myself an outdoors man. I just don't like bugs. I do love strolling through gardens, taking walks, going to the beach, having picnics and many other outdoor type activities. I love to try new things. This week I taught myself how to make and decorate wedding cakes. I made a huge beautiful cake for a very special church activity. One of my biggest interests is caring for animals, specifically dogs. I have a cute little dog that I just love to pieces. He is always being silly and trying to steal socks out of the laundry which makes me laugh. I love shopping and getting pedicures and doing all the girly things too. One of my favorite things to do is borrow my friend's little girl and have a princess day where we play and pamper each other and take pictures of course. Most of the activities I love to do involve something social with my wonderful friends (including Steve) with whom we have together created beautiful and rewarding relationships. Sometimes, however, I enjoy the wonderful peace I find inside myself during some quiet time reading. To me staying busy and always having something to look forward to keeps me feeling happy and positive, no matter how big or small the activity may be. I love building happy memories with my wonderful husband, family and friends. The happy memories definitely help me get through frustrating times in life.

Stephen:

In addition to what Jennifer and I like to do together, I also enjoy hunting and target shooting. It gives me a time to bond with my friends. I've tried to include Jennifer in this hobby, but she tells me that I have to keep some activities just between me and the guys (it's not her cup of tea, she says). I enjoy going 4-wheeling and camping and all other types of outdoor activities. I am active in my role as a youth group leader, so I often have interesting activities to plan and do there as well. I love playing my guitar and though I don't sing in public, I love Christmas time and singing carols. My family and I have many wonderful traditions especially when it comes to holidays. As a result I always look forward to the holidays and spending time together with them. I have had some great friends for years that are almost like family to me and we enjoy our annual "guy trip." My friends and I like to go to movies and watch football together regularly as well. I also love to read a wide spectrum of books, from Harry Potter to studying the law. It is so nice that Jennifer and I can enjoy many activities together and also be supportive of each other spending time doing activities and hobbies with our friends and nurture those relationships as well. I think our various interests complement each other nicely and will allow for our children to have an opportunity to participate in a wide variety of activities and be able to develop their own interests.

Family and Daily Life We have not yet been blessed with our own children, but we are praying and hoping that that will change soon. We know that our wait will be worth it when we are blessed with the right child for us. The closest thing we have to a child is our cute little papillon puppy named McCoy. He is only about 4 pounds. We did a lot of research on his breed before we got him and he indeed is very good with children and other animals.

Jennifer:

I am the oldest of three children. I have two younger brothers. I would consider us close in heart, though we live far apart from each other. We do keep in contact over the phone and email and I visit them a couple times a year. My family has been through a lot of changes just recently as my parents divorced and are both now remarried to their new spouses. Even through all of the changes, we have managed to have open communication and still have a strong love and bond for each other. Actually, in many ways our relationships are much stronger.

I have two associate degrees, one is in social sciences and the other is a paralegal degree. I am currently working for the Department of Public Safety, but I plan on being a stay at home mom once a baby is placed with us.

I am 32 years old and Steve and I have been married for 5 1/2 years. It seems like we have been waiting forever for a baby as we have been through all of the medical procedures and tests with no success. I was originally diagnosed with problems with my ovaries but after some treatment, we found out that Steve also had infertility problems of his own. I have known since I was very young that I would adopt children and so this news wasn't as devastating to me as it is for many women, but the reality of not being able to produce children biologically definitely affects you deeply. We always try to keep positive and know that Heavenly Father is watching out for us and wants us to be happy.

Stephen:

I am the third of six children. My parents did not think they could conceive after trying for several years and adopted my oldest brother and sister. They were surprised to find out when my mom was pregnant with me. Then they had my two younger brothers and sister. We are all very close and see each other whenever possible. We try to get together for Sunday dinner every week.

I am excited to be in my law career. I love the firm I work with and being in court and advocating for people who need help. This year I will be celebrating my 31st birthday.

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