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Brent & Rebecca are hopeful adoptive parents from Utah waiting to adopt a baby.

If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.

Crossroads Dear Friend,
We never thought we’d be writing a letter like this…and you probably never thought you’d be reading one. In a way, we've both ended up on unexpected paths. Perhaps our paths will cross. Perhaps not. Whatever direction you choose, we hope that you feel with peace in your decision.

As you consider an adoption plan for your little one, we recognize that your decision is not an easy one, and our hearts go out to you at this difficult time. We realize the complexity of your decision and admire your courage, strength and thoughtfulness in seeking a plan for your little one’s future. We also understand how important it is to not just find a good family, but the right family. We are confident that we can provide a home filled with unconditional love, happiness, Christian values, financial security and quality educational opportunities. We hope this website will help you know if we are the right family for you.

Last year, as we watched Rebecca’s sister adopt a little girl, we felt very strongly that someday, we would get to do the same thing. Because of their experience, we know that happy endings are possible – for the birth parents, the adoptive couple and the baby. We have always dreamed of becoming parents and believe that God has chosen adoption to fulfill that dream.

As we await meeting you, we wonder about your personality, the shape of your smile, the light in your eyes. Someday this child within you will mirror many of these traits. Much of the goodness and talents and joys in him or her will come from you. Your little one will forever be grateful for the choice you made to give them this life.

A Bit About Us How we met: (Rebecca) It was the spring of 1999 when my sister got married. Unbeknownst to me, bachelor Brent was checking me out during the wedding ceremony! He was the best friend of my new brother-in-law. We were eventually set up on a date and Brent was instantly whooped ...I thought "just friends" would be better. So over the next 3 years, we developed a deep friendship. We loved to play tennis together (I would let Brent win); we played card games (Rook was our favorite); and were even stand-by dates for each other. Brent patiently waited for me and after years of wearing me down, I finally admitted that I had fallen in love with my best friend. After 3 years, we were married in the same room where we first met.

Our occupations: (Rebecca) We have both been fortunate to have jobs that we enjoy. Brent is a Certified Public Accountant and has worked as a Senior Financial Analyst for nearly a decade. He is so good with numbers! In fact, when I think he's daydreaming, he's really figuring out how much will be in our 401k when he retires. I work at a university as an Administrative Assitant to the Vice President of Finance. I get to organize and put on conventions and retreats. My job is extremely fulfilling. But as much as I love my job, I can't wait for the day when I give my 2 weeks notice. Being a mom is really my career of choice! Brent is a fine provider for our family and we are grateful that I'll get to be a stay-at-home mom (though I do plan on teaching piano lessons.)

What Keeps Us Busy Just for fun: (Brent) When it comes to our leisure time, Rebecca and I enjoy both ends of the spectrum. Some weekends are packed with skiing, camping, ATV-ing and fishing. We usually play with Rebecca’s family (most of whom live in Utah) – partly because they have the ATV’s and a boat, but also because they love the same card and board games! We love to travel to Pine Valley, Trial Lake, Flaming Gorge and Lake Powell. Then, the pendulum will swing and nothing sounds better than a lazy weekend. We enjoy sleeping in, going to a late breakfast at IHOP, shopping, renting a DVD, making dinner together and watching our favorite TV shows: Lost, Heros and Scrubs. We like to invite neighbors over for a BBQ and to watch a good football game.

Hobbies and Interests: (Brent) Rebecca loves to play with her sisters (there are 7 of them). They like to cook and work on projects together, like quilts, taking pictures and of course talking! She also likes to write music, sing and play the piano. I like to work on our finances (yes, that's a hobby), visit with friends and neighbors, and watch a good game.

We both enjoy watching and playing sports. Together we play tennis and go golfing…well, I golf, Rebecca drives the cart! Together we also love to travel, especially to areas with historic American sites. Truth be told, there's not much that we don't like to do together. We're kind of pathetic that way!

Lately, our interests (more like projects) have revolved around our new home. Over the past few years, we've put in our sod, planted a rose garden, built storage shelves in our basement and Rebecca's favorite, built a raised vegetable garden in the back yard. We got our first harvest this past fall. We had more tomatoes than we knew what to do with...which is ironic because neither of us likes tomatoes. That's OK, we love homemade salsa!

The next project: changing the guest room into the baby's room!

Adoption Favorite Aunt and Uncle...not enough: We love our nieces and nephews. And to be honest, yeah, they love us back. We are by far the favorite aunt and uncle! And though they help provide the "kid-fix" we crave, they don't fill the hole in our hearts. We want children of our very own. We want to be the ones who get to cuddle with them in bed every morning and kiss them goodnight.

Dimples or skinny legs? It didn't take long for us to realize that we were going to have a hard time starting a family. Infertility runs in Rebecca's family (3 of the 7 girls) so when we didn't pregnant right off, we decided to see a doctor. After 4 years with infertility specialists and 2 failed in vitro attempts, we finally admitted what we knew all along: that we would never know if our babies would have dimples like Rebecca or skinny legs like Brent. But we also knew that we needed children and that our life was incomplete without them. About this time, Rebecca's sister, who was going through similar experiences, adopted a little girl. All of a sudden, we had hope. We saw what an amazing experience it was for them and we longed for that same wonderful completeness.

Open Adoption: It is important to us to develop a comfortable relationship with you. If it is important to you to have an open association, then it is important to us, too. As long as everyone involved is able to respectfully support and acknowledge their different roles, we believe we can make it work. But it's not all up to us. So much depends on what you need and most importantly, what the child needs. We want to make that decision with you. If you prefer less contact, we completely understand and respect that decision. We will always be there for you, if you change your mind. If you would like, we will maintain a website just for you with pictures and stories that you can read anytime.

Our Promise: The two of us will always do our very best to give your little one a home where they are well-provided for, education is valued, love is central, laughing is contagious and faith is taught daily. Together, and with the love of our extended family, we will teach and guide your little one throughout their life. We know you care deeply about this child, and we will do our part to honor the trust you have placed in us. It is important for us to tell your little one how their birthmother loved and cared enough to make a thoughtful plan for their future. They will be raised feeling proud of who they are and always know that the decision you made was one of love, the greatest gift. We would be honored and humbled to be chosen as parents for your little one. We promise to always love and care for them giving them all the wonderful opportunities that we can offer. Please know that we will cherish forever this gift of love.

Children have always been a big part of our dreams for the future and we hope and pray daily for this blessing. A precious child would greatly enhance our lives, and we look forward with anticipation to experience all the joys and responsibilities of parenthood.

As you make your decision, we hope remember us. Remember that you have a chance to give us what we cannot give each other. We can only imagine the amount of courage, love and faith it takes to decide to place your baby in another’s arms. But we promise you, that your child will be loved with all our hearts.


All our love,
Brent and Rebecca