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Dave & JoAnn are hopeful adoptive parents from New Jersey waiting to adopt a baby.

If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.

Your Hopes & Dreams..... What a life-changing experience you're having! Hopefully, families you contact will be sensitive to your concerns.

We'll be here for you as you figure things out...of course, we hope you select us...yet realize you need to decide without feeling pressured by our hopes.

Adoption is personal in my (Dave’s) life. My sister, Melissa was adopted by my parents when I was 5 years old. She was only a few days old when I met her and is one of my first memories.

We each learned about our biological families… me from being with our relatives and hearing stories… and, she, from hearing about her birth mother from our parents. We grew up equally loved by our parents and relatives. There were limited birth family stories for my sister to hear because she was adopted when birthparent-adoptive parent relationships were much more closed than in current times.

Having an open or semi-open relationship with the birth mother or couple who selects us is our hopes. Our child by adoption will grow to understand his or her birth family in more complete ways than my sister has. Our child by adoption and his or her birth mother or parents will decide, with our supportive guidance, ways that birth family stories will be shared by us to our child…and arranging for meetings between them when our child is ready...and if his or her birth parents want.

What are your concerns and your feelings? We hope you will feel comfortable so you'll share your beliefs with us. 1.866.875.2340

Welome to our lives...... Have you experienced a dark time...when one moment changes things...and this time becomes a joyous experience? JoAnn & I were sad in 2004 - 2005. She was caring for her mom who had cancer. My dad just died and I was caring for my mother. One day in Summer 2005, luckily we met and found the “light” . At that moment we found love, laughter, and our life together.

We married in October of 2006 and continue to live one day at a time... appreciating everyone and all we have. When we disagree, we take turns being the person who compromises. There is no yelling...sometimes crying...then laughter as everything falls into place. There is no room for selfishness in marriage, just as there is no room for selfishness in parenting.

About Dave..by, me, JoAnn...
Dave is patient, quiet... a real goof ball sometimes, and extremely kind. He goes out of his way to make children, teens, and adults feel comfortable. Kids really love being around him – they think he’s a kid like them! He's thoughtful, responsible, and very smart.

I guess that’s why he's a scientist, who develops new medicines for people who need them. He’s great with computers, enjoys playing golf and taking photos of people and nature.

About JoAnn...by, me, Dave...
JoAnn is so much fun and full of energy. She’s sensitive, attentive and always looking for the best in whatever she does and whomever she is with. She connects with adults, teens, and children easily.

JoAnn enjoys music & singing, cooking, swimming, and being outdoors. She easily creates good relationships with customers in her work as a customer service manager. She'll take a long leave of absence when we become parents. Our relatives will be baby-sitters for the short time she'll return to her current work..as she plans to become a teacher when our child(ren) begins school.

We respect each other and enjoy all our moments together. On Sundays, we go out to breakfast and for long drives after church. We support our local businesses... buying our appliances from the local shop, eating at the local coffee shop owned by a young town couple where there's live music on weekends, and more. We enjoy major & minor league baseball games. We plant herbs and flowers and chit chat with our neighbors. We visit NYC and Philadelphia regularly to see shows and see our friends.

We think about how our activities will change when we begin raising a baby and through his or her growth years.

Our home is in a community with a playground, pool, basketball and tennis courts and other planned recreational activities for kids...like Easter egg hunts and Halloween costume contests. There is a lot of grass to run around in and our property overlooks a large pond where people fish regularly. It’s a nice mix of peacefulness and activity.

Our relatives & friends...... Dave & I have lots of aunts, uncles, cousins, and 8 nieces and nephews, our parents and siblings. We all enjoy beach days, biking, hiking, golf outings, many birthdays and other celebrations, listening to music and singing, baseball games, and simply getting together for meals and playing card games. Most of our time together involves fun and laughter around one of our kitchen tables. Our future child(ren) will be surrounded by the fun and warmth of all of our relatives.

Our parents believed in education so we and our siblings have college degrees. We'll encourage our children to attend college. We believe education will give our children the opportunities to follow their dreams as adults.

I, JoAnn, grew up in upstate New York with 3 older pretty cool brothers and very fun, nurturing parents. We went to the Adirondack mountains regularly and grew up in a close knit community. I'm lucky to have good loyal friendships that began when I was a child. My brothers and I are friends as well.

Dave and his family grew up in suburbia getting lots of fresh air and being with friends and relatives through their growth years and going on vacation to the New Jersey shore. They had typical sibling rivalry memories!

Our friends and their children are a significant part of our lives. We're at all of kiddie birthdays, baseball games, soccer games, dance recitals, art projects, Lego building, school plays, riding bikes, playing basketball, playing video games, building and flying model airplanes, singing and dancing to all kinds of music....

Our child(ren) will have lots of activities to figure out their own hobbies and interests as they grow.

Why Adoption.... We tried to start our family since marriage..by in vitro fertilization and could not become pregnant. Even before this moment, when seriously dating...we spoke about connecting with an insightful birth mother or couple to trust us and create a loving adoption plan as one way of parenting.

Your opinions will be important to us as you we get to know each other. You are putting your trust in us just by speaking with us. We thank you for that and we’ll be there for you.

We understand life is crazy and throws us all curve balls. We’re ready to help you handle the curve balls, if you want us to.

As parents by adoption, we’ll guide our child to explore life and become their own person.

We think about the days when, as parents, we share with our child or children, how their birth parents love them and trust us.

We'll support your decision...whether it's choosing us or another family...adoption or raising your baby.

If you listen to your parent instinct, you'll make choices you are meant to. We pray for you and wish only the best for you and your baby.

Hope to hear from you...1.866.875.2340

With love, Dave and JoAnn