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Dave & Liz are hopeful adoptive parents from Florida waiting to adopt a baby.

If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.

Dear Birthparents Being from big families (oldest of 6 and 5) we didn’t expect to have any problem having kids. But we’ve been unable to have kids for 7 years; not a single pregnancy. To overcome that, doctors have tried tests, prescriptions, and two minor surgeries. The human body is fascinating to learn about, but infertility treatments are also stressful, embarrassing, and financially draining. When we reached a limit with medical treatments with no success, we decided it was time to learn about adoption.

We’ve learned this about adoption: birthparents are AMAZING! It is such a courageous choice these days, and a remarkably selfless decision for your baby! And this is why we would love to meet you, tell our kids about you, and have them get to know you later in life, (if that’s what you want, too). When you choose adoption, it’s the highest service you can do, like donating an organ or saving somebody’s life. We become forever grateful to you!

We’ve heard the grieving of giving a child is hard for birth parents. We want to hear from you about this. We can sympathize with you in some ways, since we do know the pain of the absence of children. We’ve felt denial, jealousy, guilt, sadness, and wonder about why we are in this situation.

But this all has a lighter side. Dave and I joke that our kids are having too much fun in heaven, or that the stork lost our address. I poke fun at myself when I say that I can’t keep a houseplant alive, so God won’t risk giving me a child. Or we say are the luckiest, that get to adopt, and have the best of all children! We are certainly more mature now and financially stable.

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Dave What I’m like: I am, most of the time, a quiet type of person. I am mostly a homebody, and would rather stay at home a work around the house. I enjoy having fun and the outdoors; I have worked with several scout troops with my favorite volunteer job is being Assistant Scout Master. My hobbies include woodworking, reading, and astronomy. I am in the process of building a cradle for our child (I just hope that I finish it before the child comes).

My past: I grew up in a small community near Houston, Texas. My dad is a Chemical Engineer and my mom stayed home cared for me and my five siblings. I would say that my childhood was idyllic (but that sounds too uppity) so I’ll just say that I had an enjoyable childhood that included a very close family that remains so to this day. After I left home, I attended BYU and then UT Austin studying Mechanical Engineering. I now work in Florida, and really enjoy my work.

My dreams: I hope to have a family some day that is similar to the one that I grew up in (lots of fun). Professionally, I always want to thoroughly enjoy my job, and provide sufficiently for my family such that my wife doesn’t have to work if she doesn’t want to. I want to serve my God in any way that He asks, and do the best that I can.

Liz My past: I grew up in a small town in Wyoming, the oldest of 5. My dad was an accountant, and my mother was loving and dedicated. We chopped wood every fall and each summer we camped and went on road trips to see family. Us kids sang around the piano, made snow forts, argued over board games, grumbled that it was too early in the morning for family scripture reading, made Christmas surprises for each other, and laughed around the dinner table. We all went to college, call each other for advice, and get together every year. We have a great extended family on both sides, who support our adoption 100%.

What I’m like: I am creative, determined, happy, and a little stubborn. I tend to be introverted, preferring to spend time at home. I have good friends, and I like people in general. I tend to be more logical and down-to-earth. In some ways I’m a “pleaser” (I like to do things to make people happy), and in some ways I’m a “Type A” (if nothing’s getting done, I’ll speak up and try to steer the ship.)

I’ve got a good eye for art, play and teach piano and sing, and I LOVE reading. I am not afraid to try new things, like majoring in engineering, or ordering the weirdest thing on the menu, or exploring the history and ecology of the places I live. (Courage is a helpful trait now, since we’re the first in my family to adopt!) I love community events; it just makes me happy to organize something that brings people closer.

My dreams: I long to be a mother. One day I was innocently putting pears in the blender to make fruit leather. When I pushed the button, suddenly it looked like baby food, and I started to cry! As a parent, I think I’ll be in the middle for discipline: vegetables and bedtimes saying ‘sorry’ are good, but I believe kids need unstructured time and ‘mess forgiveness’ to grow up healthy & happy.

I want to learn the guitar, Spanish, how to garden, become a better piano teacher, and sometimes, I just want to be happy. I hope to live in heaven with God and my family after I die.

What Your Child's New Home Will Be Like... Our Marriage: We are frequently asked if we are newlyweds, probably because we still flirt and hold hands. Our home is full of love; we make each other laugh until we cry. We come from strong families, and talk frequently about raising kids with music & sports, with homemade crafts, with love and time.

We sometimes put off chores in favor of cooking shows or the History Channel. We like riding bikes and playing racquetball, or walking to the park. Sometimes we have friend and neighbors over for dinner. When we disagree, we never yell, abuse, or use other people to hurt each other.

Our Home: We own a small, cozy condo in Florida on the first floor of our building. We purposely bought out of flood zones, and it is sturdy concrete block. It has 2 bedrooms, 2 baths, and a little covered porch affectionately known as “the garage”, where I keep my plants and Dave builds our furniture. We love bright happy colors, so all the rooms are a different color—we call it our “Crayon Box House”. The baby's room has ocean waves on the walls and our shell collection. We have a grey cat: Smokey. He keeps us company and makes us laugh. With Dave’s handyman skills, and my decorating, we just finished remodeling our kitchen & bathroom.

Our religion: Religion is a very important part of our lives. We are active in our congregation and serve God in any way we can. Our extended families are all good people. During this process of realizing our infertility and choosing adoption, our faith has been an anchor for us that has helped us greatly.

Contact info: Please ask us any questions! Liz checks her email all the time, and we’re happy to answer an questions about adoption, whether you choose us or someone else.