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Rob & Tamara are hopeful adoptive parents from North Carolina waiting to adopt a baby.

If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.

Dear Birth Parents,

We want you to know our hearts go out to you for the tough decision you are making for you and your baby. We cannot imagine all that you are going through at this time. We respect and admire your courage. We pray frequently that many blessings will come through your sacrifice. Thank you for taking the time to consider our family.

We met in Junior High School but our love story did not begin until our paths crossed at church eleven years ago. Our first date was a three hour drive to a play with a group of our friends. After the play and trip home, we did not want to end the date so we headed to the local waffle house for a 3:00 a.m. breakfast. Our relationship strengthened when we went to another church function at a cabin in the mountains and found ourselves more interested in spending time together than spending time with our other friends who were with us. That night we went on a hike together and then stayed up all night talking. Ten months later we were married. We celebrated our eleventh anniversary this year and can’t believe how quickly the time has gone. We have enjoyed the blessing of three children and experienced the sorrow of our daughter returning home to heaven. Through our experiences we have been a rock for each other and our love has continually grown. We can't imagine ever being apart. No matter what we experience, we have learned to enjoy the little things in life. We have also learned to work together in all we do. Rob brings humor and calmness to our marriage and Tamara brings adventure and fun. This combination helps us recognize and enjoy all the wonderful things life has to offer.

Rob:
I was born and raised in Salt Lake City, Utah with the exception of living one year in California. I am the middle of five children. Growing up, I loved our vacations to the nearby family cabin and trips to our family condominium in St. George, UT. I grew up loving baseball and practiced often in the back yard. Many windows have met their demise thanks to errant baseballs I hit. Through high school I loved to ski in the winter and when spring arrived, I was part of the school track team. My summers were filled with work, golf and an occasional waterskiing trip. After high school I served a mission in the country of Colombia and learned to speak Spanish. When I returned home, I obtained a Bachelors degree in Spanish and then received a Masters of Business Administration.

I always said I would not date someone I met at church. Tamara made me eat my words. I was in love with her after a few dates. I tell everyone we met in Junior High so I don’t have to admit I married someone I met at church. Tamara holds to the story we met at church since she only vaguely remembered me from school. She is everything to me. She fills my life with happiness and is my constant encouragement and support. She expresses her love for me daily through notes, loving words, hugs and kisses. She is the type of person that creates life-long friendships with everyone she meets. She loves being a Mom which has been a lifelong dream and is excited to expand our family. She enjoys outdoor activities, playing games, reading, going to the beach, traveling and being with family. She is always on the lookout for new activities for us to do. She is a stay at home Mom and plans to continue to give her time to raising our children. She actively serves in church and works with the children’s organization.

Tamara:
I was born in Asheville, NC, but I grew up in Salt Lake City, UT because my family moved there when I was two. I am the middle of five children. I have always loved being with people no matter their age. My childhood is filled with fun memories. We spent a lot of time together hiking, camping, walking, playing games and having picnics. At home our family would have long conversations while sitting on the stairs, in the hallway, crowded in the bathroom or on the kitchen floor. We still do that today when we are all together. I looked forward to family vacations each summer. When we went on family vacations, I would find a new friend before we could settle in to our hotel room. My favorite memories are vacations at Bear Lake and picnics in the mountains with my family. I have been adventurous since I was little and loved to try new activities. I was involved in Pep Club in High School. I learned to love snow and water skiing, hiking, swimming and other outdoor activities. I aspired to be a mother beginning at 18 months old. If I didn’t have a doll in my arms I would pretend that my foot was my baby and I rocked it to sleep. Once I could baby sit, I regularly tended kids for two families. I babysat until I was 19 and still enjoyed it. During those years I knew I wanted to do something with my education that involved children. I attended college and graduated with a Bachelors Degree in Special Education and then taught children with special needs for seven years.

Rob is my best friend. He is light-hearted and makes me laugh. The first time I knew I loved Rob was at a church activity while playing a group game. I watched him and he reminded me so much of my Dad. The way he looked at me and treated me I knew he respected me as a woman. He also had a smile and humor that added so much to our relationship. I knew that day that I loved him and wanted to marry him. Over the eleven years of our marriage that has never changed. He continues to show me love and respect. We still love to have fun dates like picnics at the park and just spend time together. He is a great Dad! He is active in the lives of our children. When he isn't helping inside our home or playing with the kids, he is outside with our children teaching them how to care for the yard. He works for a major corporation. He has a flexible schedule that allows him to attend our children’s programs or other activities. He enjoys fishing, golfing, skiing, hiking and activities with his family. He also enjoys reading and learning. He is always thinking of others and serving those around him. He is currently teaching Sunday School for the adult class in church and really enjoys it.

Our son Spencer is eight and is very mature for his age. He is very aware of everything around him. He teaches us how important it is to enjoy every aspect of life. He is in third grade and loves reading, math and writing. He keeps us all busy with art work, games, cars, and sports. He runs his own pretend business in an office he has organized in the play room. He is sensitive and teaches us the importance of loving everyone we meet. He loves fishing, hiking, going to the beach and playing with his brother and friends. He is always asking when he will have another sister so that there can be three boys and three girls in our family. He is excited about adopting and asks us regularly when a new baby will come to our family.

Our second son Tyler is three. He doesn’t miss a beat and has mastered the art of being a three year old. There is never a dull moment when he is awake. He loves his big brother and tries to copy everything he does. Trains are his passion and he has them set up throughout the house. He and his brother had a great time being the guest conductors on the train at Disney World. Tyler also loves cars, balls, books and being outside. He loves ice cream and if he could, he would gladly eat it for every meal of the day.

Our daughter Alyssa was born in June 2007 and was with us for just 12 days before she returned to heaven due to a severe heart defect. She touched more people during her short life than we can imagine. She taught us the meaning of Christ-like love and the importance of eternal families in our Heavenly Father’s plan. We all love and miss her and know that she remains an important member of our family.

We know our family isn’t complete and that another daughter will join our family through adoption. We are excited and anxiously awaiting for this moment to arrive. We look forward to enjoying family vacations and time together at home, so we can create lasting family bonds and memories. We are excited to build those lasting bonds and memories with another child and can’t wait to have her join our family. Our extended family is very supportive and excited about this child coming to our home. They too feel love for you and your families. A child touches everyone no matter how long they are with you. We know this because of the impact Alyssa made on our lives.

We plan to be open with your child and share the love you have for her and the love we have for you. We want to share with you pictures and updates of your baby’s development and growth through phone, computer and visits on special occasions. We pray that the Lord will be with you and your families as you move forward with your decision. We admire you for your faith in God’s plan.

With love,

Rob, Tamara, Spencer and Tyler