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Carl Alexander & Ann are hopeful adoptive parents from Utah waiting to adopt a baby.

If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.

Birthparent Letter Dear Loving Birth Parents,

We emphasize the word Loving because we realize the decision you are trying to make can only be made with love.
The Lord is proud of the decision you are making because it is going to be in your child’s best interest. You love your child and you will always love them. Whatever you decide is best for you and your child, your love for him or her will never be doubted. Adoptive parents will always tell the child of your love for them or as a parent, single or married, you will always know your love for him or her. We are so happy you are exploring all your options to help you and your child have the best lives possible.
We would like to tell you a little about ourselves. We met in September 2002. I had moved away from my family on the East Coast in order to attend school and work and generally be on my own. Little did I know the Lord had other plans.

Alex and I met a month after I moved out west. We dated for two weeks and got engaged and then were married two weeks later. A very whirlwind romance and wedding, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. It just fit our personalities. We are very spontaneous, fun people and our engagement and wedding showed that. Alex and I are best friends. We love to do things together as a family. We enjoy hiking, spending time with our three dogs, traveling, developing new hobbies and spending time with family. We have a deep love and respect for each other that everyone around us can see and feel. We’re proud of our relationship and love to show it off.

We moved back East after our wedding and lived there with my parents for about three years. We then decided, with help of the spirit, to move back out West to work and be closer to Alex’s family for a while. Alex worked for a movie production company making films for the LDS community. I began working as a Veterinary Technician. We have been very lucky to be so close to most of Alex’s family including his parents, both of his sisters and his aunt and uncle. My Aunt and Uncle and their kids live close to us as well. As you can tell family surrounds us and we love it.
Family is a huge part of who we are. Regular Sunday night dinners, family gatherings for birthdays, holidays and just happy occasions are a very important part of our lives.

We have a lot of interesting people in our families. We have an eye doctor, a dermatologist, two doctors in training, two nurses, a computer guru, a government contractor, a tax consultant and of course us, an artist and a Veterinary Technician. We love all the differences in our family and how those differences bring us together.

Both Alex and I grew up in different circumstances, however both of our childhoods were wonderful. Both of Alex’s parents worked very hard, outside of the home. Both of his parents tried very hard to be there for their kids as much as possible while at the same time providing a good life. Both of my parents worked from home. They owned their own business. I was able to spend a lot of time with my parents. We both adore our parents and the many lessons they have taught us over the years that we hope to pass on to our kids one day.

Alex and I also have quite a bit of experience with the process of adoption. I am adopted, one of my older brothers is adopted and Alex’s sister allowed her first son to be placed for adoption when she was 17. We have been lucky to see both sides of adoption. It’s very important to us that our children know they are adopted and are proud of that fact. It’s important for them to know that their birth parents and we, as their parents, love them.
Alex and I have been exposed to the same type of parenting. Our own parenting philosophy is based off what we have learned from our parents, but also things we have learned as we’ve waited to become parents.

Our belief is that parenting isn’t black and white. There is always a reason behind any action, whether it’s good or bad. In order to fix any problem or reward any action, you, as the parent, need to understand the reason behind it. We have always worked out our problems as a family and will continue to do so with our children.

Alex and I are proud of where we come
from. Alex is 75% Finnish. He will be
getting his Finnish Citizenship soon.
I am German and Dutch. I love learning
what I can about the background of my
birthparents and my parent’s background.
Family heritage is very important to us.
While neither of us speaks Finnish, German
or Dutch fluently, we are learning Swedish
and have both taken German in school.
We hope to pass on a love of learning
languages to our children.

In addition to family heritage being very important to us, the most important thing
in our lives and our home is the gospel of Jesus Christ. Both Alex and I grew up in the church. We have both been able to use our talents in the church. Alex has been able to work with the boy scouts. I have worked with the women of the church. Together, we have been able to teach 14 and 15 year olds as well as plan fun activities for the other members of the church. The gospel is the foundation of our home and it is the foundation of parenthood. Our home has only one rule-Follow the Prophet.

We would be open to maintaining a semi-open relationship with birthparents. Emails, letters and pictures would be exchanged unconditionally during a period of time you and we both agree on. We are also open to some visits. It’s important that the child knows you and how much you love them. We do, however, feel that it’s important for both you and us to move on and live our lives separately after getting to know each other for a while.

We want to thank you for taking the time to read a little about us. Thank you for taking the time to consider what will be best for you and for your child. You and your family are in our prayers daily that you will feel the spirit and that He will lead you to the right decision.