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Steven & Deidra are hopeful adoptive parents from Utah waiting to adopt a baby.

If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.

Dear Birth Parents: It’s hard to put into words just how we feel and is just as hard to understand all of the feelings that you may be having. We hope you know that you are watched over and we are praying for you. Through this process, we have realized how close we all are to one another as Heavenly Father’s children. We were able to meet some birth moms and got just a glimpse of what you may be going through and the strength and courage you must have as you go through this experience. It is difficult to sum us up with a few words and pictures but hopefully you can get a feel for the kind of people we are.

We met at church and were friends for about 3 years until the stars aligned and we started dating. We dated for 1 year and then while fishing one day, Deidra reeled in a big fake diamond ring and Steve proposed. We were married 3 months later, at the end of 2000.

(Steve about Deidra)
Deidra comes from a boisterous, loud, family who love to make each other laugh. She is the oldest of 5 and has a mother and a father who have a strong, good marriage. They have never missed a Friday night date with one another. It is great to have wonderful role models in our lives. We love to spend every other Sunday eating dinner with the whole family and often end up playing games until late in the night. Occasionally we like to spend an entire vacation with all of Deidra’s family out of town. Although chaotic, these are priceless experiences that we cherish.

Deidra loves being a stay at home mom. Once a week she works a 12-hour graveyard shift at the hospital caring for the newborns as a registered nurse. She enjoys getting out of the house and challenging her mind. Deidra loves crafts, reading and enjoys doing things as a family. I especially love her sense of adventure and willingness to try new things. Even though she does not love all of the things that go with camping and the outdoors she is quick to suggest going as a family. If there is a new restaurant or ethnic food to try we are always on the same page and can tell you the best foods out there. I also love Deidra’s sense of humor and how she puts up with my attempts to be funny or lighten her day. Sometimes this is poorly timed but she takes it well.

(Deidra about Steve)
Steve comes from a close family and is the youngest of 4 children. Everyone lives close, except one brother who is out of state. Steve’s parents are recently retired and are trying to keep busy. They are always willing to help us out with home projects and they keep finding excuses to baby sit, which helps to fight off their boredom and also brings them a lot of happiness. We love to get together for dinners with his family and have taken some fun trips with them also. Steve has 4 cousins who were adopted and so his family is so excited for us to experience the great blessings that come through this miracle.

Steve graduated with two bachelor degrees and an MBA and enjoys working in the corporate finance world. He has a job that can be left at the office so he can spend time working on projects around the house and yard. He is always willing to try something new and it is always a great success. He inherited his handyman skills from his dad. Steve loves to play basketball and go to the gym. He also loves the outdoors any time of year and loves to go camping, fishing, skiing and boating. Steve is the hardest worker I have ever met, but at the same time he knows how important it is to take time off to play, and does so often. He always looks at the positive side of things. He is very social and is a friend to all. He is very organized and good with money; he keeps us out of debt and on track with our goals. He can be serious when he needs to be but is often very silly and fun. He loves candy!

We were blessed to have a funny, stubborn, energetic, sweet, loving and tenderhearted little boy named Zack added to our family 5 years ago. He is a joy to us and he teaches us how to be better people every day. Deidra and Zack’s days are spent doing crafts, reading books, and building things (mostly out of Lego’s). Zack enjoys his one-on-one time with Steve when Deidra goes to work. Zack loves to follow in his dad’s footsteps and runs after him with his toy tools, begging to “help”. Steve is great to always think of ways to involve him. We’re still waiting for some cousins for Zack on Deidra’s side but he enjoys getting spoiled as the only grandchild. Zack has five cousins on Steve’s side and he is especially close to his eleven year old cousin Katherine.

Now that Zack is getting older, we are excited to teach him the outdoor sports that we love. Deidra thinks he should hit the slopes on a snowboard while Steve is anxious to demonstrate his skiing skills. Zack is interested in doing most sports and recently enjoyed hitting golf balls with us. The great thing is we get to do these things as a family. Every year we have at least two big vacations with one spent in southern California, visiting Steve’s brother. This year we went with Steve’s parents to Hawaii. It was Deidra’s first time and we had a great experience. Zack always talks about going to the beach or back to the farm in Canada where Grandma grew up.

Deidra loves to read any magazine or book she can get about parenting and children and we have both taken Parenting With Love and Logic classes together. We truly want to be the best parents we can be. We try not to yell, threaten, lecture or spank. Still, we are not perfect and we try to apologize to him when we make mistakes. He forgives easily and freely gives out hugs and kisses. He adores babies and is so excited to be a big brother; he never forgets this desire in his prayers.

Steve and Deidra enjoy spending time together; we go on a date at least twice a month and spend lots of time with our friends and their children. We have a very easygoing relationship. Deidra discovered after they were married that Steve is not a fighter or a yeller. She is happy to have found a better way, to talk and communicate and work things out. We are opposites in many ways and so we balance each other really well. We also have discovered that we can agree to disagree. We have great love and respect for each other.

About a year and a half after Zack was born we decided to try and have another child. After "trying" for about 3 years, and going through infertility treatments, we decided that we would love to adopt a baby. The thought of adopting is just as exciting for us as getting pregnant would be, we are so excited for this miracle to happen! We know that Heavenly Father has a plan for all of us and families are formed in many different ways and we feel certain that he will help us find the baby that is meant to be in our family.

We know that you love your baby with all of your heart and this decision will be one of the most important you ever make. We want you to know that we are thankful for your selflessness and your wisdom, and that we have such great respect for you and the hard choices you are making. We would really love to send letters, emails and pictures to you on a regular basis so that you can have an idea of what your baby's life is like and know that he or she is happy and well. We would be happy to determine the frequency together, with you. Know that your sweet child will always be told of your great sacrifice and love, and of our great respect for you.

Hopefully this glimpse into our lives will give you an idea of what we are about. All of the hobbies and vacations in the world can never compare to the love that a child needs and to the love you have for your little one. We know this through our experience with our son Zack and can’t wait to share that same love with another sweet spirit.
Love and prayers, Steve, Deidra & Zack


To find out more about our family feel free to google: steve deidra zack