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Richard & Luna are hopeful adoptive parents from Utah waiting to adopt a baby.

If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.

Dear Friend, This must be the hardest time of your life, deciding what to do with your future and the future of the one you carry. We pray that the decision you make will make you happy and that you can have peace. We know you want what is best for your baby and we commend you for considering adoption as a way to help you, the baby and couples like us who could not have children any other way. Life is interesting sometimes, you are reading this letter maybe wishing you weren’t pregnant and having to go through all this decision making, and here we are wishing we were pregnant. Sometimes it doesn’t seem fair…does it? One thing for certain is that in Romans 8:28 is says “All things work together for good to those who love God.” We certainly don’t understand God’s ways sometimes, but we know we love Him, and He loves us. So we trust him that His plan for our lives will turn out better than the plan we made ourselves.

We hope we can meet you face to face. In case it doesn’t happen, we would like to tell you about us in hopes that you can get to know us better. We met in a Social Dance class at a University we both attended; we were friends for a year and then we dated for a year. We got married in July 2000 and we have been trying to get pregnant with no success for 6 years. We have done several fertility treatments, but nothing has worked. Our marriage has gotten stronger through the trials we have faced together, and we have tremendous respect for each other. We had always dreamed of a having a large family. We felt devastated when we found out we cannot have biological children.

We thank our Heavenly Father for the blessing of adoption. Nothing has brought us more happiness than our daughter Natalie who came into our lives through the most unselfish gift any one could ever give us. Natalie’s sweet birth mother gave her to us, so that we could love and raise her as our own child. Then we realized that not being able to get pregnant was not a curse but a blessing in disguise and we would not have it any other way. We had such a positive experience with our daughter’s birth family that we decided it would be delightful to enlarge our family through adoption again. We long for more children, more dirty fingers, more dirty diapers, more laundry, less sleep and more to love.

Richard writing about Luna: Luna is the love of my life. Many years ago when I was looking for someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, I was looking for someone who would not only be a great wife for me, but more importantly someone who would be a great mother for my children. Luna has not only been a great wife, but she has exceeded everything I could have hoped for as a mother of our daughter Natalie.

As a seriously dating couple, I remember one day when Luna and I had a deep discussion. She asked me out of the blue, “How would you feel if I couldn’t ever give you biological children?” Of course I had never thought of such a situation. At the time I thought it was a ridiculous question. There we were, not even engaged, and Luna worried about being able to bear children. I just brushed it off and said, “I would love you no matter what, and we would make the best of life.”

For some reason that question stuck in my mind for many, many years—probably because I thought it was such a strange question to ask. It wasn’t until later that I realized Luna’s whole life has been in preparation to be a mother. That has been her ultimate desire in life, and I guess it has also been her ultimate fear. Even years before we discovered that we couldn’t have biological children, Luna was concerned that she wouldn’t be able to fulfill that role in her life. Once we were blessed with our daughter Natalie, through the love of a giving birth mother, Luna felt like she had finally started her calling in life. Luna is indeed the ultimate mother.

Luna use to spend most of her time reading, watching movies, learning history, traveling, cooking, and working as a nurse. She even began a master’s degree in nursing, but since our daughter came into our lives, she has put much of her own personal time aside and Luna’s life has become that of our daughter’s. Now I see Luna spending most all of her time with our daughter reading children’s books; taking her to swimming and music lessons; teaching our daughter how to read, draw, speak two languages, learn her colors, numbers, countries of the world. The list goes on, and I find Luna loving every minute of it.

Luna’s true calling in life is to be a mother. My wife keeps thinking of more things she can do with our daughter, and I’m thinking, we better get this child a sibling fast before her Mother smothers her with too much love and attention.

All joking aside, Luna has been the best wife and mother I could have ever prayed for. I pray that she will get to share that love with more children that come into our lives.

Luna writing about Richard: Richard is a dedicated husband and father. His number one priority in life is his family. He comes from a large family of 6 siblings and he is the 3rd boy followed by 2 girls and a boy. His family is very close and the siblings have a very tight relationship where they are all each other’s best friends.

He loves the outdoors, especially hiking. He likes to play Frisbee, snow and water ski, rock climb and do many other outdoor sports. What I admire most in Richard is his patience and the way he always puts himself in other people’s shoes and tries to feel what they are feeling before having an opinion about them. He is not judgmental and he is easy to get along with. He is loved by his coworkers and his family.

His parenting philosophy is to be a good example first. For example, if our children see us having daily scripture study and daily prayers, they will most likely want to do the same. If Monday nights are set aside for family time in what we call “Family Home Evening,” then the children will look forward to that time and hopefully institute the same tradition when they grow up and have children of their own. If we perform acts of service to neighbors and community, we hope that the children will learn to have compassion in their hearts and develop a desire to sincerely give of themselves in helping others as they grow older.

Richard has a master’s degree in Information Systems Management and currently works in his field. He is great with computers and electronics in general, but his favorite hobby is photography and he takes tremendous pictures.

Richard will continue to work full time which allows me to stay at home with the children. One day a week when I work as a Registered Nurse at the hospital, Richard gets to have all the fun at home. This is great bonding time and fun for him and Natalie because they get to do all sorts of different activities together.

In summary: We feel positive about open adoption, since we enjoy that already with our daughter Natalie’s birth family. This would not be something new to us. We would be delighted to exchange letters, pictures, gifts, and would honor any other agreements that we make. We hope to be able to get to know you better in the future and pray each night for someone like you to bless our lives.


With love,

Richard, Luna, and Natalie

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