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Timothy & Kristine are hopeful adoptive parents from Arizona waiting to adopt a baby.

If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.

Congratulations!
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Hi!

We have worried and fretted over what to write in this letter. How do you write a letter to someone you haven't yet met, but that means the world to you? How do we express our awe in the love you have for your baby? What do you say to a person who will deliver to you your dreams and your future? What words could we write that would capture the emotion and gratitude that we feel? We have done the best we can. We have simply written what is in our hearts.

Our Story... Tim and I met in high school, I was a Sophomore, he was a Junior. We shared a group of friends and hung out together as a group often. It wasn’t long though that we found our friendship growing into something more. Our first official date was a Homecoming dance. Tim treated me to a great dinner and gondola ride before taking me to the dance. We had many more dates after that first one. We enjoyed just being with each other and hanging out with each other’s families. Tim went on vacation with me and my family numerous times as did I with his family. Tim was extremely supportive and encouraging of me even then, and he went to many softball games, always bringing me my cherished Gatorade and sunflower seeds. But one of my most treasured memories of our courtship is my baptism. After many questions and inquisitions from me, Tim introduced me to two missionaries. Learning that I was a daughter of God was a turning point for me, and Tim dunked me shortly after. This brought us even closer together.

In the summer of 1999, Tim went to Cleveland, Ohio to serve a full-time mission for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, something he aspired to do since we was a child. I also left home for my freshman year of college. For almost two years we were separated by distance, but that failed to harm our relationship. Hundreds of letters were exchanged over that time, and as we both were growing and maturing, we remained each other’s rock and support. Although the distance and time changed both of us, we learned a lot about ourselves and each other and our relationship remained strong.

Tim’s proposal was a surprise to me on Valentine’s Day 2003, although I knew all along that I wanted to be his wife. I met him at his house after I got off from work, as I often did, and he told me we needed to go somewhere. I thought he was taking me to a local burrito place because I was absolutely starving, but that wasn’t his plan. We drove for about an hour and stopped at probably a dozen places-all significant-all places where a “first” had happened. It wasn’t until the last place, the park next to our high school, that I figured it out. He said this was the place that he first realized that he loved me, then he got down on one knee and asked if I wanted to spend eternity with him. I wholeheartedly accepted his sweet proposal, and we were married on a (hot) September day in 2003 in the Mesa temple, so you could say we are high school sweethearts.

We have been married for almost 6 beautiful years, though they haven’t been without their challenges. The main one has been our struggle to add to our family. That is the deepest desire of our hearts, and through this trial we have come to know of the unconditional love of our Heavenly Father. We strongly believe that choosing a family for your child is an incredible act of love and selflessness. We imagine that the things you may want for your child are similar to the things we would want for ours: parents with a loving, strong, and stable marriage; faith and constant learning; a loving environment with a fun and positive atmosphere; family unity; financial stability; education; and opportunities to develop character and talents. We hope to give you comfort in knowing that with us your child will experience life to the fullest degree of love, joy, hard work and happiness.

I (Kris) come from a very loving, affectionate and fun-loving family. Luckily, I am able to see all of them often, as they live very close by-as do Tim’s parents and sister. I’m blessed to be an at-home wife, though I’m sure I’ll need to use my Biology degree sometime. I’m responsible for all the office work for our landscape business, and I love being able to “work” in my workout clothes-or pj’s. I’ve been referenced as an enthusiastic and energetic person, and I love anything that I can do outdoors. Tim and I love camping, fishing, and traveling-we love the beach! I also enjoy running, reading, painting and shopping of course-all of which things Tim does with me. :-) I also love baking, or better yet eating the things I (or others) have baked-I really just love food in general. Tim seriously makes the best chocolate chip cookies ever, they’re even better than his mom’s. I’m also so very grateful for the ways I can help others through my church callings, as they allow me to be around the youth. I hope to teach my children about the importance of honest and open communication within a family, the importance of being a respectful, trustworthy person and how important it is to always stand up for who you are and what you believe in.

I truly believe that it's not what you have in your life, but whom you have in your life that counts. Tim is the most honorable, hardworking, hilarious and encouraging person! In our almost six years of marriage, I have learned more about how to serve others from him than I have all the years previous. I consider this his greatest strength. He is always going out of his way to put others first. Tim is not someone who likes to be in the spotlight, but rather quietly helping others. Being able to provide a financially stable home for his family is also very important to him-he is such a hardworking man. He is also patient and spiritual by discipline and is reliable and dedicated to anything he sets his mind to. People are inspired by Tim, and the youth of our church are drawn to and trust in him. Their admiration for him is clear-they love being around him-weekly activities at our house are well attended with some playing pool, others playing the piano and guitar, and others eating whatever food I’ve made for them. I feel so grateful to have found an eternal companion who is my best friend and greatest example. I have become a better person having been married to Tim and am so excited to be able to share our love with the children who will come into our home.

I (Tim) come from a very loving and compassionate family. I was blessed to be taught the principles of the gospel as a child and hope to be able to do the same with our children. I had exemplary examples of hard-work, service and unconditional love in both of my parents, for which I am truly grateful. I try to keep my priorities very clear, and I feel that Kris is the most important person in my life and I do all I physically, mentally and emotionally can do to love, support, protect and provide for her. I look forward to feeling the same way about my children. I enjoy running and strength training, hiking and backpacking, and camping and hunting-pretty much anything that gets me outside. I like to ride my dirt bike with my dad and friends, traveling with Kris, and being outdoors. I also enjoy running races, activities with the boy scouts and young men in my church and hanging out with my family and friends. We are very active people who are always up for an adventure. So I work hard, but we play hard too!

Kris is the most unbelievable person I have ever known. She’s patient and kindhearted, extremely organized and creative and loves to learn new things. She’s always involved in something, and has more love inside her then she knows what to do with. She’s very energetic and loves being challenged. I know that she will make a great mom because she’s always concerned with the happiness and comfort of those around her and always has other’s best interests at heart. She’s created an inviting and warm environment in our home that others are drawn to and because of her, I strive to be the best person I can be every second of every day. I am blessed to have a person so loving, kindhearted and caring as her in my life.

Although we have a great time together we have felt such an empty spot in our hearts, someone is missing. We are so very excited and grateful for the opportunity to have our little family grow! We believe very strongly in the role that “Family” plays in God’s plan. Children are amazing and we know that there is a precious, little miracle out there that we have been waiting for.

We want you to know that we believe in “showing” our love and concern for children. We feel that spending time with our future children is the most important factor in discipline. We have seen many children disobey simply to get their parents’ attention. This will not be necessary in our home; our children will know that they are important to us because we spend time with them. We anticipate disciplining our children the same way we were disciplined, always lovingly-through firm and consistent guidance and fair and logical consequences.

In the midst of a very personal situation you are considering a decision that would heal the hollow place of a family. You are showing a maturity and a love for your child that we admire beyond description. Your courage will be the greatest gift we have ever received, but more importantly, your courage will be a treasured gift to your child. The amazing love you have for your baby will provide the promise of a brilliant future for him or her. Our joy in welcoming a new little soul into our family will spill out of our hearts and wrap your little one in a blanket of love, stability, and happiness.

Many birth parents may read this letter, but when YOU read it, when you know that it was written for you, please know that you are loved! None of us have met yet, but our love precedes that anxiously awaited meeting.

We know that parenthood does not start with the birth of a child; it begins months prior to that. You have already loved and nurtured your baby for many, many weeks. Your child will always know that you loved him or her first, that you gave them life, and that you sent them to their eternal family. We truly believe that one of life's greatest treasures is the love of a family, and we know that it is not the roads on which we’ve come that matter now, but rather the importance of the crossroads that intertwine our families forever.

We can’t imagine the emotion and energy it takes to work towards this decision, and we hope you have good people around you to help you before you finally make it. We want to thank you again for searching for us as we have searched for you. Please know that we are open to sharing in your journey now and in the future, if you so desire. If we can be supportive to you, whatever your decision, we would be honored. Thank you for giving us the opportunity to share about our family and we wish you the best through your pregnancy.


With love,
Tim & Kris