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Hung & Linda are hopeful adoptive parents from Virginia waiting to adopt a baby.

If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.

Hope Hope - Linda writes: This letter is about hope. Hope for you, hope for your child, and hope for us. You are trying to determine how and who can best provide for your child. We are praying to start a family, after unsuccessfully trying for over eight years. We cannot know all of the things you hope for - for both yourself and your child. But, the Lord, our Father in Heaven, knows. He knows your courage, turmoil, difficulties and triumphs just as He intimately knows ours. He knows what your child needs. If we all rely on him, though the future may seem uncertain and difficult, He will gently provide for each of our needs, fulfill each of our hopes, and challenge us to reach the divine potential he has given to you, to us, and to your child. As you make your decision, and carefully weigh the families that yearn to care for your baby, we hope that you will listen to the quiet of your heart. If we are right for you, and the child you are growing, you will feel a spark of recognition. Below is information about us, who we are, how we live, and what we believe, to help you make that decision.

Parents, Pets, and Current Jobs - Hung writes: I was born in Saigon Vietnam, but spent my first 21 years growing up in Salt Lake City, Utah. I am an only child. Linda was born in Mesa, Arizona. She is the second oldest of five sisters. My parents and most of Linda’s family still live in Utah. Both of my parents are retired, while Linda’s dad runs a small payroll business. One of Linda’s sisters adopted a young girl with American Indian / Vietnamese heritage. In Utah, my parents enjoy having Linda’s family over for Vietnamese food. We live in Northern Virginia, with Morris the rodent hunting cat, six nameless guppy fish, and Rocko the dog; a ball chasing Corgi. We’ve been in our house for almost 9 years, with a close circle of friends in the area. I am a career government IT specialist, working at Fort Belvoir. Next year, my agency will move to Quantico, which will reduce my commute time to 15 minutes. Linda works for the Commerce Department in D.C. as an Iraq Trade Specialist. When we are blessed with a child, she will become a full-time mother. We are very grateful to our families for the help and support they continue to give us.

How We Met How We Met - Hung Writes: Linda and I met back in 9th grade gym. I was the quiet kid in the corner and she was the talkative tiny blonde. One day, we struck up a conversation while she was on her paper route. We never dated seriously, though we did go to a Christmas dance where Linda taught me my first dance moves. Most of our time together was spent walking and talking as friends. We went our separate ways in college, and our talks became less frequent. After college, Linda got engaged to a better dancer, and I was off to Army boot camp. Over the years, we contacted each other, but we moved on with our lives. One day, Linda called me to catch up on things. We ended up chit-chatting up into the late hours for several nights. We were 28, but it was as if we were teens again sharing the random details of our lives: her marriage and subsequent divorce, my stint in the Army. It wasn’t long before we were researching rendezvous points in-between Utah and Virginia. The moment of epiphany came when Linda told me she would not move to Virginia until I gave her an “official invitation.” I pondered a bit on this: Comic Sans on corporate letterhead or Arial on fancy cardstock? Sensing my confusion, she explained she wanted a marriage proposal. Suddenly relieved, I said “Oh is that what you meant?” One month later I proposed and we were married a month after that in Utah. After the logistics of selling her house, and moving cross country, we were finally together; ten months after Linda’s first call to reconnect.

Iraq & Afghanistan - Linda writes: In 2007, Hung’s engineering battalion was scheduled for a 2008-2009 Iraq deployment. Emotional, I decided that, if we did not have children before he deployed, when he went I went. We tried to get pregnant. I prayed, cried, hoped, but, we never got pregnant. Through prayer, I came to understand that our Heavenly Father would give us a family one day, but not before Hung deployed. Instead, the Lord had plans to help us grow, painfully, that required leaving safety and each other. In February 2009, Hung arrived in Afghanistan, his unit rerouted after the Iraq “surge,” and I arrived in Iraq. Hung was the signal officer for the 276 engineering battalion. Heartfelt, he managed his communications shop of 20 soldiers as they dealt with the darkness and difficulties of war and separation. I learned to understand Hung, and the military more, as we both felt isolation, loneliness, danger, endured heat, slept through helicopters and planes close overhead, and choked on air to terrible to breathe. In Anbar province, working for the State Department, I helped to modernize Anbar’s banking system. In Iraq, I loved flying in helos, and eating, and working with Iraqis. During his tour in Afghanistan, Hung watched other officers talk to their children and felt sharply our lack of family. Seeking solace, and trusting in the Lord’s timing, we saved our “danger pay” money for adoption.

The Road Well Traveled & Learning The Road Well Traveled - Hung writes: We both share a love of traveling, to see new things and partake in local culinary delights. We first discovered this while dating in New Orleans. We patrolled the French Quarter for aromatic and crispy beignets, right out of the fryer, and freshly caught shrimp and crawdads. Since we’ve married, our adventures have increased. We spent a weekend in a renovated shed, out on a farm pasture, in the dead of winter, where a trio of fuzzy, cute sheep ran laps around our shed. We’ve trekked along the misty gray trails of Gettysburg reading about the terribly fierce battles that raged between the two armies. Linda climbed to the top of an ancient Mayan pyramid in the Yucatan, while I observed from a point as far as my nerves would take me up the narrow steps. In 2004, we visited Vietnam for a couple weeks, where I reconnected with extended family. It was as much as a cultural shock for me as it was for my wife. My family gave us the red carpet treatment and overloaded us on seafood. Recently we traveled to Turkey and Greece. In Turkey we saw the Royal Mosques of Istanbul and the caves of Cappadocia. In Greece we saw the ancient temples we had only seen in postcards. So we can continue our travels, even after we start a family, we drive cars that are paid for and enjoy a modest, Ikea furnished, home. We honestly look forward to the day where we can share our adventures with our future children.

Education, Intelligence & Value - Linda writes: More than any other activity, education has been our hobby. Both Hung and I earned Masters Degrees, trying to satisfy our boundless curiosity. Currently, Hung is dabbling in a quantum computing PHD. We believe that education is a life-long process which starts at home. Hundreds of books crowd our shelves including the Grimm Fairy Tales, the Hobbit, military history tomes and volumes on Egypt’s lost treasures. However, we have also learned as much from our failures, mistakes, difficulties and life detours as we have learned through formal education. Because of these, we believe that self esteem is created not by merely telling children they are smart, but by giving them difficult opportunities where learning, mistakes, and advancement are all possible. We have found that undertaking the impossible, the improbably, the difficult and the maddening, be it Officer Candidate school, grad school, or working in dangerous places, forces our intelligence to grow. Consequently, we do not believe that intelligence is an innate, unchanging ability. God, our Father, gave each of us infinite worth and the possibility of infinite intelligence. This possibility is as true for you, as it is for us, and will be for your child. He wants us all to test the boundaries of our minds. He is helping us grow through our mistakes and difficulties. Our Heavenly Father’s gift of infinite worth means that your value, our value, our children’s value, cannot be given or taken away by the world or by our own human errors. This certainty in God’s gifts creates patience for learning. Understanding our infinite value changes the purpose of education, from having degrees on a wall and credentials behind a name, to testing the boundaries of our intelligence, learning from our trials, and fulfilling the divine potential God has given all of us.

Relationship with Birth Parents Relationship with Birth Parents – Linda writes: Honestly, we are trying to figure out this process, and the best way to have a relationship with our birth parents, as much as you are. We are open to an ongoing relationship with birthparents. Without better knowing you, and you knowing us, that remains undefined. We want the adoption process to help you reach your dreams, and give you the assurance that you are making the best choice, and responsibly providing for your child. This letter cannot answer all of your questions. We can try. Please email us, get to know us, and weight if we are right for you. He who loves us best, will guide all of us through the process. Send us a message

Adoption - Hung writes: Finally, why do we want to adopt? In short, we have been unsuccessful at making children for the past eight years. We are both now approaching 36, and we feel our window on raising children shrinking every day. We have established careers, finished our schooling, traveled, and yet we are reminded of the large hole in our lives. Our friends and siblings all have children, both of us teach children in Sunday school, so we are surrounded by children on a weekly basis. After watching others’ kids throw tantrums in stores, chase animals, strip to their diapers and run around public places, and sleep quietly, sweetly in their parents’ arms, our hearts burn for the love and chaos children bring. It is impossible for us to put into words the importance of adoption, and we can only postulate on what kind of parents we will be. We can say without a shred of doubt that we will love any children gifted to us with all of our might, mind, and spirit. We will be as kind and forgiving as we are capable, and we will be eternally grateful should you feel us to be worthy of your child. Please get to know us, our hearts and our lives, as you decide.

With joy and patience,
Hung & Linda