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Brigham & Sally are hopeful adoptive parents from Arizona waiting to adopt a baby.

If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.

Dear Friend, We are so grateful for your willingness to consider helping us complete our family. Although we do not know you personally, we are impressed with the courage and compassion you must have to be considering this option for your baby. We know by your being here that you must love your baby very much and want what is best for him or her.

Four years ago, we had our first experience with adoption when our daughter, Olivia, joined our family. Through that experience we developed great admiration for birth parents and an understanding of the miracle of adoption. We have no doubt that Olivia was meant to be with us, and we love her just as much (perhaps more) as if she were our biological child. We have a great relationship with Alyssa, Olivia’s birth mom, and we value her influence in Olivia’s life.

We live in Arizona, where Brigham is a law professor and Sally is a stay-at-home mom. We have both encountered challenges in life, and we have learned from those experiences the importance of faith and family. We are glad to have made adjustments in our personal and professional lives to allow us to be actively involved in raising our child. We enjoy close ties with family, good friends, and financial stability, but we long for a second child to share our love and our lives with. Adoption is our only chance to make this dream come true.

We can offer your baby great love, stability, and every opportunity, as well as a perspective that will help him or her navigate the inevitable challenges of life.

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About Us By Sally:

When I first met Brigham, I was immediately drawn to him. I was especially attracted to his way with words. I wanted to be his friend, not because it was obvious that he was well-liked, but because I wanted to know who was behind the language, quick wit, and dry sense of humor. Since then, I have made many marvelous discoveries about Brigham’s character and capacity to love. Brigham is trustworthy—I trust him with my love and my life. He is true to himself, his values, his beliefs. Brigham is a romantic. He knows how to be silly—he’s an expert, actually—which I love.

When Brigham was eighteen years old he was in a serious car accident that left him partially paralyzed from the shoulders down. As a result, he had to learn to negotiate life from a wheelchair and find new ways to accomplish everyday activities. Despite these challenges, he went on to college and graduated with Honors. He then went to law school at UC Berkeley. For several years he worked for a large law firm in Southern California, and now is a professor at a law school. Brigham’s students say that taking a class from him changes their lives. It is thanks to Brigham’s indomitable spirit and dedication that he has been able to accomplish so much—so much more than many people thought was possible. I hope our children will learn from him the power of the human spirit.

By Brigham:

Sally is not what you expect. When I first met her, I thought she was adorable, sweet, and a little quiet. She is all of those things. But she also has an inner strength and persistence that surpasses expectations. She can be smart or silly, and yet she always has both feet squarely planted on the ground. When Sally was a child, her father was in the Air Force, so her family moved from town to town. As a result, Sally developed a close relationship with her family, learned how to adapt elegantly to new circumstances, and developed a compassion for people of all different walks of life.

Sally loves kids and spent several years working as a pediatric speech pathologist. Children immediately warm to Sally. Perhaps they see in her a reflection of their own shyness, or they can sense that there is nothing false in her. She has an amazing ability to see past appearances and into your heart.

Sally is an exceptional mother. I love to watch the way Sally immediately understands Olivia’s needs and gently challenges Olivia to learn new things. Sally and Olivia will spend hours cuddled together on the couch reading books and telling each other secrets. I cannot imagine a better role model and teacher for our child. In every action, Sally inspires courage, grace, and compassion.

By Sally:

I feel that my true calling in life is to be a mother, and I love being Olivia’s mother. She joined our family rather unexpectedly—we had four hours’ notice—and we will never be the same. We knew she was meant to be ours the moment she was placed in our arms. It was definitely love at first sight! She is such a blessing to our family, and makes us laugh every day.

Olivia is so much fun! She loves to play hostess (it’s an unending tea party at our house!), sing, dance, play with her friends and cousins, read books, make up stories. She loves, loves, loves preschool. She enjoys the social aspect of it, but especially thrives on learning. She insists on Brigham telling her a story every night after she gets in bed. If I offer, she says, “No, Mom, you’re a reader. Dad’s a teller.”

By Brigham:

Through my experiences since the accident that put me in a wheelchair, I have learned a great deal about friendship, family, and the great blessings that come with great challenges. I have discovered that very often the only difference between a blessing and a curse is what you do with the circumstances given you. I am fortunate to have an amazing wife and daughter, a job doing what I love, and strong values to guide us through tough times.

Earlier this year, we explained to Olivia about adoption. She knows that she grew in Alyssa’s tummy, and then came to join our family. She is very excited to be a big sister. (She talks about it as if a child might arrive at our doorstep any moment!) We are glad that Olivia came to us through an open adoption so that she can grow up knowing the love of her birth mom.

A Bit More About Us We are lucky that both of us grew up in close families where we could learn and grow in a loving environment. We stay in close contact with our parents and siblings, get together with them often, and help each other through challenges. Two of Sally’s brothers live nearby, and Olivia loves playing with her cousins.

We both love the arts and the outdoors. We enjoy going to plays, reading, taking road trips, and exploring in the canyons and desert. We also like going to used-book stores, playing games, shopping, and wrestling with our dog, Max. Brigham enjoys painting and writing. Someday he’d like to write children’s stories. Sally enjoys biking, snowboarding, and learning to be a trapeze artist. Each year Sally designs and sews Halloween costumes for us.

We want our children to understand and appreciate the many cultures, foods, and landscapes that make our world beautiful. We know firsthand the importance of education, and we are committed to providing our children with the love, education, and opportunities that will allow them to accomplish whatever they dream.

Our Promise If you decide to place your child with us, we promise the following:

1. Your child will love and respect you. We will teach your child that you chose adoption because of your great love for him or her. Your child will hear from us only praise for your courage and strength in making this choice.

2. You will have opportunities to be a part of your child’s life. We believe that children are happier and healthier when they know where they come from.

3. Your child will always have a stable, loving home with a mother and a father. We are committed to each other, to our marriage, and to our family.

We know that this is a big decision and you are overwhelmed with options. We hope that you will take a chance on us. We promise that if you do, we will spend every day showing our gratitude through love of your child.

Whatever you decide to do, we wish you and your baby peace and happiness.
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Brigham, Sally, & Olivia