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James & Veronica are hopeful adoptive parents from Maryland waiting to adopt a baby.

If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.

Welcome Thank you for considering adoption for your precious baby. We know that you want the best for your child and that this is a very difficult decision to make. Veronica’s brother was adopted, so she understands the joys and challenges of building a family through adoption. Like her brother, Veronica got to know and admire her brother’s birth mother. Thank you so much for reading our letter and considering placing your child with us.

Our Story We are a happily married couple who longs to share our love with a child. We met through a mutual friend at a dinner party in 2003. As we talked at the party, we laughed a lot and realized that we had a lot in common. As we dated, we spent many hours taking long walks together talking about everything. During one of those walks before our marriage, we discussed adoption. We both love children and agreed that one day we would want to adopt a child. In addition to spending lots of time with our nieces and nephews, we have both been volunteers working with children. Adoption was a natural choice for us once we discovered that our fertility issues would keep us from having a biological child.

Our Lives Together We live in a quiet, friendly, and safe Maryland neighborhood. It has a warm community feel. When we first moved into our home, many neighbors stopped by to say hello and invited us into their homes. We love spending time with our neighbors. Every summer, our neighborhood gets together for at least one block party. There are many children in our neighborhood of different ages. There are two fantastic elementary schools nearby and an award winning high school three blocks from our house. Within walking distance from our house is a playground and nearby there are several pretty parks, hiking trails and a skating rink. We live near a town center with a library that has lots of learning activities for kids. Our town center also has fun stores for children. For example, there’s one store that our nephews and nieces love where they can paint ceramics.

Family has always been and continues to be the centerpiece of our lives. Jim is one of four children and Veronica is one of six. Between us, we have 13 nieces and nephews ranging in age from nine months to 17 years old.

On weekends, we enjoy spending time with friends and family members who live in towns nearby. Veronica’s father, who is very excited about a new grandchild, lives about 20 miles away. One of Veronica’s sisters also lives nearby with her husband and three-year-old daughter. Jim's brother, his wife, and their two children, ages three and one, also live in the area. We have cousins who live in neighboring towns as well, many of them with young children. All of these family members have told us that they cannot wait to have a new baby in the family.

On weekends, we also enjoy making improvements around our house, jogging or going for bike rides together, cooking, and relaxing with a good book or the newspaper. On Sundays, we enjoy going to church, where Jim is a member of the Parish Council and Veronica participates in women’s groups.

We also enjoy traveling and have been to West Africa and Europe together. Veronica has lived in Nigeria, Pakistan, the Philippines, and Senegal, where we met. Jim has lived in France, Germany, Kenya, and Senegal.


Our Thoughts About Each Other

Veronica on Jim

Jim has a great sense of humor, beautiful blue eyes, and a sweet, friendly smile. My first impression when we met was that he was easy to talk to and fun.

I remember that during our first conversation, he told me about his experience volunteering at an orphanage in Kenya. As he told stories about the children at the orphanage, his eyes lit up. I could tell he had enjoyed being with the kids at the orphanage. I was also touched by his compassion. It was clear that he had really gotten to know, and deeply cared about, those children.

I love to watch Jim spend time with our nieces and nephews. They have a close, fun, and very playful relationship with him. For example, our little nephew Marc loves to put on his Spider man costume and ask Jim to pick him up and make him fly like “Spidey.”

Jim is a great communicator, whether he is talking with children or professionals at work, and he has a big heart. These qualities make him great at his job, as well, which is to provide guidance to doctors and nurses about how to offer their patients the best possible care. A skilled athlete, Jim plays on a soccer team in our neighborhood. Jim’s warmth, energy, and big heart will make him a great dad.


Jim on Veronica

The very first time I saw Veronica, I saw how beautiful she was. Then, after getting to know her, I realized how gentle, loving, smart and selfless she was, too.

She has always been concerned about the welfare of children, which is one of the many reasons I fell in love with her. When we first met, she was working for an organization that helps children in need all over the world (UNICEF), and she told me all about it. I could tell from that first conversation with her that advocating for children was her passion.

People tend to gravitate toward Veronica because she’s so open and friendly. When we’re in crowded places, for example, even just waiting in the train station, it never surprises me that people will approach her to ask her directions or the time or whatever. She always replies gracefully. Veronica loves learning and is curious about the world and about people so she reads continuously, loves discussing new ideas, and wants to make a difference in the world.

She inspires me to be a more open, more loving and compassionate person just by watching the way she interacts with others. She’s wanted to be a Mom for a long time.

I’m certain she’ll be a great Mom, because putting our child first will come naturally to her.

Closing Thoughts We promise that we will love your child unconditionally and that he or she will always know that you placed him or her out of love. You will be spoken of in our home with great respect. We are open to sharing letters, pictures and e-mails. We are also open to other arrangements once we have the opportunity to meet and get to know each other.

While we have some understanding of your experience, please know that we recognize that each birth mother's journey is unique to her. It may feel overwhelming knowing which are the right decisions to make when there are so many, but feel reassured that you are not alone. There are many people whom you have never met praying for you and your baby and you can trust that you will make the decision that is best for both of you.

Please call us or text us at 240-271-1840.

With our best wishes,

Veronica and Jim