Robert & Jenniferprofile id #28541
Robert & Jennifer
are hopeful adoptive parents from Virginia waiting to adopt a baby.
If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.
Hello! Thank you so much for giving us this opportunity to introduce ourselves. This is a difficult decision for you and we are grateful that you are considering us as the family that will love your baby. You are fulfilling our lifelong dream to have children.
We are Robert and Jennifer. We have known each other for twelve years. We met while working at our company and took to each other immediately. We share the same birth date -among other similarities. We kissed at the millennium under the big Virginia sky and began our life together. We bought our home and married in our favorite month of October (2006) - ready to start our family. Six years have passed and after many unsuccessful attempts, we are still yearning to bring children into our home and into our hearts. We embrace and dream of our lives to include little hands to hold and smiles to share. Opening the bedroom door to where our child should be, we feel the emptiness in the air and anticipate the sound of young laughter.
We live in a neighborhood of families with children, nestled among horse pastures, yet close enough to the city. Our house is a stroller ride away from the pool in a safe and beautiful subdivision. Our community has a recreation center and the swim team even hosts events. There are always weekend activities scheduled, many geared toward children Ė from charity benefits to biking and craft days. How many cookies can we buy from the little scout teams?
We love to be outdoors. Jennifer is an avid gardener and enjoys playing in the dirt. She spent much time developing the yard; planting roses, peonies, fruit trees and installing a pond. Robert enjoys golfing and birding; it is rare that a pair of binoculars and a camera arenít within reach at home or away. We like baseball and football season and attend games now and then. We take weekend road trips to parks, plantations, festivals and wineries and we bring our dog, Cooper, with us as much as possible.
We discuss parenthood and our preferences. We like the idea of public schools and would want our children to be exposed to different cultures. We eat healthy and our children would too. We encourage learning -trying and failing is just fine, as long as you give it go. Discipline would be imposed with the objective of having a child understand the reasoning behind it. In fact, it may be beneficial for a child to design their own punishments by recognizing objectively what a fair consequence would be. Since we traveled rarely during our childhood, we are enthralled with schedules that include trips by car or train or plane or boat -all with anticipation to travel to new places and to meet new people. We would also want our children to be close to nature, to develop a respect for the environment and feel the wonder of wildlife. There is awesomeness in growing an explosion of vegetable leaves from a tiny seed or watching bees tirelessly collect pockets of pollen or the heroic migration of butterflies. Of course, it does not really matter what we want, but what our children will need from us. We believe one of the most essential ingredients for growing up healthy is to simply have happy moms and dads that are equipped for unlimited giving and not pinned down by their own burdens.
: Growing up in a small suburban town, I spent my days with the children in the neighborhood and our adventures were in the woods and brooks until sunset. I was fortunate to have a friend just next door and I would listen for the stones rattle at my window -calling me outside and into the designs of imaginative stories that only our young minds could create. While my parents were not always cohesive, I appreciated the things they found pleasure in including music, gardening, and entertaining. My older sister and I were like peas and carrots, we always traveled together, hand in hand, until she moved away to Wisconsin. We both have an affinity for the country- rolling green pastures freckled with cows or sheep. As a young girl, I was often given the responsibility of watching over my two little brothers. They are now accomplished electricians and we remain very close. They have rewired and connected countless fixtures in my homes. They have given me light.
My father was responsible for implementing discipline when my mother would report any misbehavior. His corrective measures included a lecture, command, or punishment to close the issue. However, my most special times growing up were spending summers with my grandparents in their New Jersey home. This is where I recognized how it was to love infinitely. There was an invisible thread of energy that connected the two and their gaze seemed to hide the secrets of their magical world. My favorite memories are catching them dancing in the kitchen when they thought no one was looking. Afternoons were consumed helping my grandfather manage his grand rows of vegetables, carefully selected and delivered to the kitchen where a collection of pots and wares spilled delicious aromas through every room.
: I grew up on Long Island in New York. I have a large extended family on both sides with seven paternal aunts and uncles, and my Nana having five siblings on my motherís side. All of the relatives lived on Long Island, and family get-togethers often consisted of 50 to 60 family members. I recall frequently visiting aunts and uncles, and thinking how great it was for them to want to be around each other. My father worked long hours as a New York City police officer and did not have a lot of time to spend with us, but I enjoyed bonding with him while completing chores. My mom was able to stay home with us until my younger brothers were in middle school - she seemed to always be there, ready to help with anything I needed. And she instilled in us the benefit of participating in lots of different activities, whether it was sports, music, or community groups. My fondest memories are of her great cooking, homemade Halloween costumes, teaching us about classic movies and books and making every holiday special.
I made the decision to relocate after being offered a full scholarship to the University of Richmond. I was the first in my family to attend a four year college and received a degree in Chemistry with a minor in Russian studies. I appreciated the opportunity to study abroad in Russia and Jennifer and I continue to travel and love learning about other cultures.
Our door is always open to family and friends. Our brothers and their families all live within driving distance, and we love spending time together. Our nieces and nephews absolutely adore Cooper and enjoy playing in our yard. Our parents live in south Florida now, and want to be involved. They love when we visit and take every opportunity to see the children and grandchildren.
We look forward to loving a child and being parents. We understand there may be challenges in any adoption process. We are happy to help in a situation for a woman in a crisis pregnancy. We are aware of the risks associated with adopting a child of learning disabilities, ADHD, fetal alcohol syndrome and the effects of prenatal drug exposure. We would like to be able to adopt a child who is as healthy as possible but will gladly consider a range of background factors. We prefer a child of Caucasian race or Caucasian mix. However, we are certainly open to other backgrounds on a case by case basis. We have no preference concerning your proximity to our home and are open to communication via letters and emails- particularly around special events such as holidays and birthdays - to share pictures and milestones. We are comfortable with face-to-face visits a few times per year given the preparedness of your situation and preferences. We understand the importance of openly talking about adoption, and we recognize our child may have questions. Together, we will find the answers.
We wonder if our paths are to be connected, if our lives will touch by the gift of a child. We pray that God will send down his purpose for us and we will be forever joined, like intersecting threads in a quilt.