Mindyprofile id #29867
is a hopeful adoptive parent from North Carolina waiting to adopt a baby.
If you are pregnant and considering placing your child for adoption, please read the following Dear Birthmother Letter.
My Life as a Novel
Thank you for taking the time to read this brief introduction to my story. I would describe my story as a combination nail-biting drama and a side-splitting comedy. I hope, in time, I will get to read a little of your story and become a chapter in another childís.
I appreciate the courage and strength it takes to begin this journey you are on. I pray God will give you guidance and wisdom as you make this decision and loving people in your life to support you. I have prayed the same for myself. I know it is difficult to learn enough about a personís character in a few short paragraphs but I will do my best to show you what has brought me to this decision and to this point in my life.
I grew up in a mid-size town in North Carolina in a loving, Christian family. I loved playing sports, reading, school, being outside and doing anything my older brother was doing! I was not the little girl you would see wearing dresses, makeup or her motherís jewelry. I was usually wearing tennis shoes, cut off camouflage shorts and had pockets filled with rocks and frogs. My grandmother moved in with us when I was four years old and was my favorite person growing up. She was a huge influence and support to me and showed me what it means to truly love your family and God.
I spent most of my later childhood, teenage and early adult years playing tennis and went to College on a full tennis scholarship. I went to a small Baptist University in North Carolina and majored in Social Sciences. I later went on to receive my Masterís Degree in Business Administration.
I married a wonderful man on October 5, 2002. I didnít date a lot in high school and college and always thought dating was a painful process. That was not the case with Tim. We were completely at ease with each other from the moment we met. I called my best friend after our first date and told her I was going to marry him! He truly was everything I hoped, prayed and dreamed about. He was brilliant, funny, and courageous and kind and he made me laugh every single day we were together! On October 18, 2010, my husband suffered catastrophic injuries in an automobile accident. He was rear-ended and the force of the impact broke his neck in two places. He was paralyzed from the neck down and required a ventilator to breathe. He should not have lived through the accident but he did and suffered no injury to his brain. He initially spent four months in the hospital battling various complications but finally made it home from the hospital even though the doctors said he never would. Although he spent most of the next 2.5 years sick and in and out of the hospital, we were blessed to share that time together as a family. After a long and courageous fight, he passed away on July 29, 2013. Timís accident had such a profound impact on my life that I often think of my life in terms of before the accident and after the accident. Throughout Timís days in the hospital and his subsequent time at home, I learned the importance of my faith and my family; two things I will never take for granted. It took a great tragedy for me to see what was truly important in my life and to cast aside the things that were inconsequential.
My friends and family describe me as independent, intelligent, athletic, courageous and compassionate. Of course, they are a little biased!
Three weeks after my husbandís accident, we were blessed with a wonderful little boy. His birth was surrounded by sorrow and suffering but from the moment I saw him, I knew everything would be okay. He inherited his fatherís stunning blue eyes and long eyelashes and when he flashes them at me, I canít help but melt. He is smart, energetic, funny and full of life. He reminds me every day to not take things so seriously and to have fun, fun, fun!
Spencer loves reading, playing outside, riding his bike and learning. He is fascinated with letters right now and is already asking me to teach him to read! He is taking swimming lessons and does preschool soccer. We are very active in our Church where there are tons of fun activities. He still speaks of his daddy often and remembers riding on Timís wheelchair and their nightly prayers and stories.
I cannot put into words what being a mother means to me but know that I do not take this job lightly. I strive to be a loving, patient and kind Mother every day. God has given me a beautiful gift and if it is his will, I will be blessed with another. Being a parent is the most difficult job I have ever had and every morning I pray for patience, wisdom and strength and to always remember that he is truly a gift.
I cherish every day I spend with my little boy. We love going to the park, playing in the back yard, going to Church, spending time with our family and reading tons and tons of books! Our town has a wonderful park system and great museums and libraries.
I love the time I spend teaching Spencer and growing with him. I want him to be a happy, humble, and Godly man and hopefully one day I can say he is all of these.
Thank you for taking this time to learn a little more about me and my precious little boy. I pray you decide to take this journey with me. I cannot promise you or this child that I will be perfect but I can promise them unconditional love and unwavering support. I can promise to teach them, and listen and guide them in all that they do.
Best of luck to you as you move forward with this decision.