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I think we can all agree that life is full of surprises. All of us on this site (and those reading the site) may very well feel like they’re on an unexpected road with lots of twists and turns. I am guessing that many of us wish we had more control – that things would feel “back to normal”. But I also think these twists and turns are our lives. I guess all we can do is do the best we can, right?

One of our challenges in life has been our infertility. We’ve seen a couple of doctors, had many tests and procedures… we even adopted other couples’ embryos and had them implanted, hoping to have another child. That resulted in two more miscarriages - and more disappointment.

We are so blessed to have Matthew but I know we all ache for another child. Over the past year and a half or so, Matthew has occasionally inquired as to the whereabouts of his brother or sister. His comments have increased lately. Recently he brought it up again and it’s hard to know what to say – all I say is that we are trying! He said he wanted someone to play with – and that he could play baby games with a baby. His comments make me happy and sad all at the same time.

We are completely confident he will be an incredible big brother. Just the other day a friend of ours told me of a man with two little girls who needs assistance. This friend volunteers with her church and goes on calls to visit those who are asking for help. It turns out this man lost his job and needed some financial help. She also said to me that the dad mentioned how much his daughter loves books. Well… I knew we should, at the very least, send some books and things over to them. All I had to do was tell Matthew that there were a couple of girls who didn’t have many books or toys and that we should share some of his things. That’s all it took. I knew he would want to share but he surprised even me. In fact, I had to veto a few of his gift ideas that were special gifts to him from family members. Well, we packed up a huge box and everything in the box was chosen by him. I was deeply touched by how much he understood and cared.

We are all so very ready to have another child in this home. Completely ready. Matthew’s name means “gift from God” and another child would be another precious gift. We pray that this gift will be in our not-too-distant future.